“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You want someone you just met to like you?

Georgepithyou

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Ask them open-ended questions about themselves. Don't wait for your turn to speak. Listen, and then ask a follow-up question based on what they said. If you do that a couple of times, that person feels heard and appreciated by you. If they realize they're doing all the talking, they'll apologize and ask a question of you. If your answer is short and pivots back into something they said, you have now formed a connection in their mind as a good listener who is interested in what they have to say. People like that a lot.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Depends on the context, but generally yes, people like to talk about themselves, and it's a good idea in most cases to give them the opportunity to do so.

At the same time, you don't want to turn a date or an interaction into an interrogation.

If a girl is shy or reserved and you keep on firing off questions she'll feel like she's in an interview, and unless you can find a more creative way to build rapport, she's not going to be too comfortable fielding question after question from a stranger she just met (unless of course she's already super into you).

Of course being a good conversationalist includes being able to ask good questions and being a good listener, but it also involves being able to adapt to any given context.

Going in with the mindset of "I'll ask open-ended questions, listen, and re-direct the conversation back to her when she asks about me" is great until you discover she's shy and too reserved to answer at length or she can't hold a conversation. It's great until you discover her interest is medium at best or that she is using the same strategy as you and you end up playing question hot potato with each other.

Overall, I do think asking open-ended questions and listening are great tools to have in the conversationalist skillset (active listening might be the most effective out of anything else).

However, a well-rounded schmoozer, in addition to listening and open-ended questions, will know when to invite the right amounts of humour, wit, charm, intrigue, and even vulnerability into a conversation.
 
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