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[joe45]

you been in a situation when you want to be friends with this certain individual ,but they don't wnat to be friends with you. kind of hurts

i knew this girl shes my co worker at first i was attracted to her and thought she was cute, flirted and talked to her i made jokes, told funny stories.......etc,but i knew she wasn't interested in me in dating /bf. so i said ok i just said be friends with her and nothing more

the company we worked for went bankrupt and we were laid off. i still kept in contact with this girl right. i phone her once in a while-once or two times a month like 7 times alothgther and everytime and each time she make an excuse(some is at the door, she has to go..etc) and cut the conversation short. on avg the call was like less than 1 minute. she never once called me just to say hello or wassup , she only called when she needed to pick up my text book she wanted to borrow. all i do is give casual convesation "hello, how are you, what are you doing these days....etc
another time she wanted to borrow my text book she also was taking a course in. she dropped by my place and picked it up and spoke to me for like less th an 1 minute at my door and left. you think if you haven;t seen someone for like 5 months and your friends you talk more or go for coffee. i asked her to go out for coffee with me, hang out wiht me when my other friends had parties comin up and she declined all of them- (the excuses can;t make it, have to shop with friend...etc)

another time she invited me to her friends restaurant-picked me up at my house and after that quickly drove me back home. the duariton in the restaurant was like 15 minutes and the drving was like 10 minuts back and forth and you think if you haven't seen that so called friend for like 4 months you hang out and talk more.

her email msgs are like 1 sentence long compared to mine which are standard 4 sentences long. casual convestaions and nothing rude or demeaning, or sexual

with msn its the same thing too ., i always have to initate the convesation, by saying hello, how you doin, and start topic to talk about, at times she even ends the msn convesation like at most 5 minutes . lately she ends it by saying she haas to go to bed-at most like 3 min chat on msn-and yes i initiate all the time

not sure why some ppl are like this, i mean i understand she ain;t interested , but she isn;t even intersted in friends either. anyone had this happen to you before , you want to be freinds with that certain indivudual but they don;t want to be friends with you.yoiu invited them to hang out with you-they say no each time and excuses.

 

[lordson]

doesn't seem like she wants to be frineds, and shes jsut using you to borrow stuff she needs

i have a few people like that, not really interested in being friends with them, but they have things i need occasionally, so ill say hello after not speaking to them for months and motnhts, organizese a picup time, go ther get it go home and not speak to them for ages after that until i need something again

so yeah, she doesn't want to be friends theres nothign you can do really, unless you organise like a hwole day date or soemthing, go shopping or the zoo or whatever

or she can just be a lazy ass like me, sometimes i'm too lazy to go see my close friends, but thats unlikely because shes a chick.

 

[tsmith2334]

It's a struggle, and someone that fargone usually won't ever become a good, dependable friend anyway. Doesn't seem like you have much to work with, AND you've given it plenty of time and effort, so I would say next.

(It takes alot for me to next a girl, but I think this is kind of an extreme case)

 

[The Sperminator]

Bull**** you know deep down inside you want to be more than friends. If you didn't then whats the big ****ing deal. It's obvious she doesn't care to be friends so forget her. What's so great about her that you want to be friends with her so badly.

 

[Obsidian]

This story just goes to show you why being friends with girls is mostly pointless. There are a few exceptions, where you may develop good female friends, but most of 'em are really fickle and will cut off most of their contact with you the moment they find a guy they really like.

 

[MooseGod]

A lot of people out there don't any common courtesy whatsoever. Go figure.