"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"you two should totally hook up"

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My friend was talking about this girl he knows who I'm going to be meeting. He says "yeah you two should totally hook up". He made it seem so easy. I met her and she was really cute. The thing is I don't know wtf to do.. like I can build attraction pretty well but how do I get them up to my room? I need like step by step ****.. can anyone help me? Thanks!
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Colin O'Brien said:
My friend was talking about this girl he knows who I'm going to be meeting. He says "yeah you two should totally hook up". He made it seem so easy. I met her and she was really cute. The thing is I don't know wtf to do.. like I can build attraction pretty well but how do I get them up to my room? I need like step by step ****.. can anyone help me? Thanks!
Its diffiicult to advise step by step, i'd like to help, but could you post some more information about the situation and your cute friend. For example what sort of girl is she? some of her dislikes/likes? and where do you intend to sleep with her?, you mentioned a room, a hotel, your house?

Sorry if you need step by step instructions as you requested we need more information.

However from what you have posted, if you have no problem building attraction, build more. Make her know your intent (of having a relationship, not f*ucking her), build mood, atmosphere, START SLOW and wait for the passion to commence.
 

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Well I meant an answer on more general terms, the one girl really was just an example, my friend's statement (implying that hooking up was like no big thing and I could easily do it) was the main thing. I've hooked up maybe twice, both at parties, and I really have no idea what to do to get them back to my room now in a college setting.

Some info on the girl: we both play oboe in the symphony here. Oboe chicks are mad hot, dont judge haha. So we see each other once a week. But its not so much her I care about, but rather how this thing is so easy to some people, like i can just call her and say "hey want to hang out in my room?". something tells me that wouldn't work.. right?
 

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If you want a reason to go back to your place a good way to do that is for you guys to go hang out somewhere and then later on in the night if things are going well, u can straight up ask her if she wants to go chill at your place. You don't have to make up some weird way of getting her there, if she's interested she should comply.
 

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Just ask her to come over and hang out. you can do this toward the end of doing something else together or just as it's own thing. You don't even have to mention your room.

I remember this one girl I was seeing, we came back to my place after dinner and my roommates were home so I thought it'd be cool to hang out with them in the living room, she knows them a bit. I thought it might be strange to just drag her into my room; we usually hang out in my room, but it's when no one else is home. However, I went into my room to empty my pockets of car keys, phone, wallet, etc. When I turned around to go back she was already walking trhough the doorway. I hadn't even been gone 15 seconds, but I wasn't going to go back out now.

Just get her over to your place. Your room will be a natural place to hang out. Just relax and as long as you don't think it's weird to be hanging out in your room, then she won't think it's weird either. All your stuff is there and hence.. a lot of what there is for you to do.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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