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I don't think there's a definite truth. Imo cold approach isn't as great.
What is greater?

Mind you ,I've done thousands approaches in my life.
Oh, not very efficient, eh?

The climate against approaching is also a thing to discuss.
If you do live in a smaller town you might be burning down your bridges real fast.
Any reason to not cold approach. :rolleyes:

Look at the thread that's running now: dude approached 1000 women slept with 4..not my words..just the most recent thread about it on the forum..
What does one man's results, have to do with the next man results?

Answer = nothing.

Any excuse to not cold approach.

Yes diamond pill. That's a state of bliss where a man feels like he found a winning strategy and obtainable one. For you that might be cold approaching one hour per day following a certain set. For me that's about working 12 pee day stacking money knowing that I've ALWAYS attracted women ,and I always will. Now I'm more interested in keeping certain women around.
Are the women attracted to you, or your money?

And how will a woman even know if you have money, if you are cold approaching?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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What is greater?



Oh, not very efficient, eh?



Any reason to not cold approach. :rolleyes:



What does one man's results, have to do with the next man results?

Answer = nothing.

Any excuse to not cold approach.



Are the women attracted to you, or your money?

And how will a woman even know if you have money, if you are cold approaching?
It wasn't efficient to me.

My ROI was oftentimes a lose lose situation; if I bagged a woman I had to run circles to present myself as a somewhat decent guy. You know, airmatras lifestyle.

At some point I decided to put my time in getting my bag up significantly. Made me way more efficient around women. Gives me the perfect " excuse " to look and stay busy.
 

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It wasn't efficient to me.

My ROI was oftentimes a lose lose situation; if I bagged a woman I had to run circles to present myself as a somewhat decent guy. You know, airmatras lifestyle.
:rolleyes:

At some point I decided to put my time in getting my bag up significantly. Made me way more efficient around women. Gives me the perfect " excuse " to look and stay busy.
So, the more money you made/make, the more women you attract?

Ya don't say.
 

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So, the more money you made/make, the more women you attract?

Ya don't say.
Wait a minute. You basically (finally) agree and get my point. Nice!!:cool:;)

My point is that there's only 24H in a day. If a man is constantly on a mission to cold approach he better has a great ROI otherwise the Ls ( time wise) gonna add up..not even talking about the uselessness he adds to his own aura..

If you do catch one, it's game on. She will be game, and expose your flaws one by one. Now you don't have the funds to compete. When will this become relevant? When you see "copies" of yourself living it up. As will she see that...

A man on a mission is working round the clock. Add gym, administration cleaning and maintaining connections takimg care of kids and the days will fly by. After a certain age let's say 25, a man can't get away with the aurmatras/ mommy's basement lifestyle.

This is MY philosophy. I spent tons of time chasing women and felt like it brought me nada. Making money on the other hand, made me walk with a big **** energy thats unheard off. To stay on topic; especially now times in the west will become harder and harder imo it's easier to lay traps instead of running behind the the prey.

To each his own ofcourse. I simply can't live with myself rocking that old azz lifestyle anymore. I need progress, money and status and my formula to get there is work, study and doing bizz.





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My point is that there's only 24H in a day. If a man is constantly on a mission to cold approach
he better has a great ROI otherwise the Ls ( time wise) gonna add up
..not even talking about the uselessness he adds to his own aura.
A good ROI is ideal for any method, not just cold approach.

Do you feel the same about methods like social circles and OLD, or are you picking on cold approach simply because your ROI was terrible and you're imposing your loser mentality on others?

If you do catch one, it's game on. She will be game, and expose your flaws one by one. Now you don't have the funds to compete.
This is simp shiit, and disgusting.

When will this become relevant? When you see "copies" of yourself living it up. As will she see that...

A man on a mission is working round the clock. Add gym, administration cleaning and maintaining connections takimg care of kids and the days will fly by. After a certain age let's say 25, a man can't get away with the aurmatras/ mommy's basement lifestyle.
Anything to not cold approach :lol: .

A man would rather walk 5 miles, barefooted on broken glass...than approach an attractive woman 20 ft away.

This is MY philosophy. I spent tons of time chasing women and felt like it brought me nada.
Interesting.

My pursuit of women have paid dividends.

Making money on the other hand, made me walk with a big **** energy thats unheard off.
I'll ask again, how will the women know you have money?

And if you can't attract those same women without the money, and are using money to lure women in...then you are a trick.

Nothing alpha or suave about that.

To stay on topic; especially now times in the west will become harder and harder imo it's easier to lay traps instead of running behind the the prey.

To each his own ofcourse. I simply can't live with myself rocking that old azz lifestyle anymore. I need progress, money and status and my formula to get there is work, study and doing bizz.
Money and status doesn't buy heart, or balls.
 

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A good ROI is ideal for any method, not just cold approach.

Do you feel the same about methods like social circles and OLD, or are you picking on cold approach simply because your ROI was terrible and you're imposing your loser mentality on others?



This is simp shiit, and disgusting.



Anything to not cold approach :lol: .

A man would rather walk 5 miles, barefooted on broken glass...than approach an attractive woman 20 ft away.



Interesting.

My pursuit of women have paid dividends.



I'll ask again, how will the women know you have money?

And if you can't attract those same women without the money, and are using money to lure women in...then you are a trick.

Nothing alpha or suave about that.



Money and status doesn't buy heart, or balls.
I disagree.

Money and status DOES add balls and heart. Sitting on the couch smoking tgat Bob marley and every now and then going out to find low quality women subtracts heart and balls. Again, I've been on both sides of the playfield and to ME having money made all difference.

It's FAR from a loser mentality. It's the exact opposite! I'm a winner, a man whose winning in life. Back when all I did was chasing women I can definitely say I was losing/ a loser. Perhaps that's why this gets you in your feelings?? Because you know, there are different ways to the top of the mountain. What works for YOU doesn't have to work for ME.

How women know I got it going on? Because they are hardwired and trained to smell that shyte on a man. Because I dont flinch when the check comes in regardless of the cost. Because I put them at nr 6 at best. I NEVER talk about my bizz. They can just sense it..you know, chin up chest out. Some men need victories to get therr,others like you ,perhaps have this naturally. But as I said before, there are more ways to the top of the mountain..

I've always attracted pretty women. That's not an issue. The issue( which you didn't respond to) was that my carbon copies where outshining me and I was just yet another broke n1gga who had nothing but a mouthpiece..that only takes you so far. I got tired and needed to release my full potential.

Finding your ways in these hard times( thread topic, NOT JUST cold approach) is very very sauve. Packaging shyte at DHL or Amazon on the other hand while attracting ghetto azz broke women on the other hand...that's imo nothing to brag about.

To each his own.
 

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A good ROI is ideal for any method, not just cold approach.

Do you feel the same about methods like social circles and OLD, or are you picking on cold approach simply because your ROI was terrible and you're imposing your loser mentality on others?



This is simp shiit, and disgusting.



Anything to not cold approach :lol: .

A man would rather walk 5 miles, barefooted on broken glass...than approach an attractive woman 20 ft away.



Interesting.

My pursuit of women have paid dividends.



I'll ask again, how will the women know you have money?

And if you can't attract those same women without the money, and are using money to lure women in...then you are a trick.

Nothing alpha or suave about that.



Money and status doesn't buy heart, or balls.
It's real simple: we're both hunters hunting the same prey.

I lay traps while doing other productive things with my time. You run behind the prey. The most important thing is that at the end of the each one of us wants to lay in his bed satisfied.

Time will tell what strategy is more fruitful...

But the topic isn't about whether cold approach is good or bad. That's a broken record. The topic is that times in the west getting hard, and men need to readjust their strategies . I'd like you to say some about that specifically as well.
 
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I disagree.

Money and status DOES add balls and heart.
I'm talking about balls and heart in terms of...

1. Cold approaching women.
2. Being Direct (Mode One) with women.

Money doesn't buy those things.

And according to your false theory, you don't need balls and heart if you have money, because women are gonna sniff you & your money out, and start approaching you once you get the bag anyway.

Sitting on the couch smoking tgat Bob marley and every now and then going out to find low quality women subtracts heart and balls. Again, I've been on both sides of the playfield and to ME having money made all difference.
Um, you can still attract low quality women, even with money.

Ever heard of gold diggers?

It's FAR from a loser mentality. It's the exact opposite! I'm a winner, a man whose winning in life. Back when all I did was chasing women I can definitely say I was losing/ a loser.
Yeah, if you were chasing (your word, not mine) women...then you were indeed a loser.

Perhaps that's why this gets you in your feelings?? Because you know, there are different ways to the top of the mountain.
No, what gets me in my feelings is, if I'm an environmentalist, and I see guys like you adding trash and garbage to an already messy environment.

You're supposed to be cleaning it up and making it better; not adding to the filth and junk.

What works for YOU doesn't have to work for ME.
Funny, because I don't even think it's working for you.

How women know I got it going on? Because they are hardwired and trained to smell that shyte on a man.
Ok, so since you got it going on..since you are now the man with money..

Go to a supermarket or any other arbitrary public place, and simply walk around.

Let's see how many of these hardwired and trained women will come sniffing your way, because you have all of this imaginary money that they are naturally wired and trained to sniff and come flocking your way!!

Because I dont flinch when the check comes in regardless of the cost. Because I put them at nr 6 at best. I NEVER talk about my bizz. They can just sense it..you know, chin up chest out.
Notice you ain't sharing the narrative of how you're getting these women in the first place.

Before the check comes and the date is set...how did you get her? That's where the devil is; in those details :devil: .

Some men need victories to get therr,others like you ,perhaps have this naturally. But as I said before, there are more ways to the top of the mountain..
Sure..there is the alpha way to the top (body, charm, swag, masculinity).

Then, there is the beta way to the top (money, material possessions, resources).

As you said, what works for you doesn't have to work for me.

I've always attracted pretty women. That's not an issue.
If you always attracted pretty women, then your cold approach efficiency shouldn't be as bad as it is...nor would you be preaching against it.

The issue( which you didn't respond to) was that my carbon copies where outshining me and I was just yet another broke n1gga who had nothing but a mouthpiece..that only takes you so far. I got tired and needed to release my full potential.
A good mouthpiece can get a woman in bed...says Alan Roger Currie: The Godfather of Verbal Seduction, a man of whom women paid him for phone sex.

Finding your ways in these hard times( thread topic, NOT JUST cold approach) is very very sauve. Packaging shyte at DHL or Amazon on the other hand while attracting ghetto azz broke women on the other hand...that's imo nothing to brag about.

To each his own.
Yeah, and for a woman to say..

"I'm only with Gamish because he has money".

That's imo nothing to brag about.

To each his own.
 

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The topic is that times in the west getting hard, and men need to readjust their strategies . I'd like you to say some about that specifically as well.
1. Cold approach.
2. Go Direct (Mode One).

That is all the readjusting men need.
 

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It's real simple: we're both hunters hunting the same prey.

I lay traps while doing other productive things with my time. You run behind the prey. The most important thing is that at the end of the each one of us wants to lay in his bed satisfied.

Time will tell what strategy is more fruitful...

But the topic isn't about whether cold approach is good or bad. That's a broken record. The topic is that times in the west getting hard, and men need to readjust their strategies . I'd like you to say some about that specifically as well.
I'm talking about balls and heart in terms of...

1. Cold approaching women.
2. Being Direct (Mode One) with women.

Money doesn't buy those things.

And according to your false theory, you don't need balls and heart if you have money, because women are gonna sniff you & your money out, and start approaching you once you get the bag anyway.



Um, you can still attract low quality women, even with money.

Ever heard of gold diggers?



Yeah, if you were chasing (your word, not mine) women...then you were indeed a loser.



No, what gets me in my feelings is, if I'm an environmentalist, and I see guys like you adding trash and garbage to an already messy environment.

You're supposed to be cleaning it up and making it better; not adding to the filth and junk.



Funny, because I don't even think it's working for you.



Ok, so since you got it going on..since you are now the man with money..

Go to a supermarket or any other arbitrary public place, and simply walk around.

Let's see how many of these hardwired and trained women will come sniffing your way, because you have all of this imaginary money that they are naturally wired and trained to sniff and come flocking your way!!



Notice you ain't sharing the narrative of how you're getting these women in the first place.

Before the check comes and the date is set...how did you get her? That's where the devil is; in those details :devil: .



Sure..there is the alpha way to the top (body, charm, swag, masculinity).

Then, there is the beta way to the top (money, material possessions, resources).

As you said, what works for you doesn't have to work for me.



If you always attracted pretty women, then your cold approach efficiency shouldn't be as bad as it is...nor would you be preaching against it.



A good mouthpiece can get a woman in bed...says Alan Roger Currie: The Godfather of Verbal Seduction, a man of whom women paid him for phone sex.



Yeah, and for a woman to say..

"I'm only with Gamish because he has money".

That's imo nothing to brag about.
Money doesn't buy balls and confidence.
But the actions needed to make money will create balls and confidence.
And isn't the end goal of being with a woman to make her pregnant and have kids with her?
That goes full circle back to the ability to get money.
 
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If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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I'm talking about balls and heart in terms of...

1. Cold approaching women.
2. Being Direct (Mode One) with women.

Money doesn't buy those things.

And according to your false theory, you don't need balls and heart if you have money, because women are gonna sniff you & your money out, and start approaching you once you get the bag anyway.



Um, you can still attract low quality women, even with money.

Ever heard of gold diggers?



Yeah, if you were chasing (your word, not mine) women...then you were indeed a loser.



No, what gets me in my feelings is, if I'm an environmentalist, and I see guys like you adding trash and garbage to an already messy environment.

You're supposed to be cleaning it up and making it better; not adding to the filth and junk.



Funny, because I don't even think it's working for you.



Ok, so since you got it going on..since you are now the man with money..

Go to a supermarket or any other arbitrary public place, and simply walk around.

Let's see how many of these hardwired and trained women will come sniffing your way, because you have all of this imaginary money that they are naturally wired and trained to sniff and come flocking your way!!



Notice you ain't sharing the narrative of how you're getting these women in the first place.

Before the check comes and the date is set...how did you get her? That's where the devil is; in those details :devil: .



Sure..there is the alpha way to the top (body, charm, swag, masculinity).

Then, there is the beta way to the top (money, material possessions, resources).

As you said, what works for you doesn't have to work for me.



If you always attracted pretty women, then your cold approach efficiency shouldn't be as bad as it is...nor would you be preaching against it.



A good mouthpiece can get a woman in bed...says Alan Roger Currie: The Godfather of Verbal Seduction, a man of whom women paid him for phone sex.



Yeah, and for a woman to say..

"I'm only with Gamish because he has money".

That's imo nothing to brag about.

To each his own.
Okay you have a point here...
 

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First off to @We_ArE_VeNOM ....it's NOT about having money.

See my below response to @Gamisch .

I totally get what you're saying @Gamisch , feel free to correct me if Im wrong.

Attracting women boils down to the energy you project and if having a great job, money and a certain status results in you having and projecting a great confident energy, more power to ya!

As a woman I'm not gonna know you have money/status when we first meet however I will notice your great energy - your confidence, how you carry yourself, your commanding presence.

Sure it's possible a man living in his parent's basement who has a mediocre job that pays little and chases skirt all day might have that same confident energy and swag; I haven't seen it myself (in real life) but it's possible I suppose.

Like you said, women can smell this stuff (great energy and confidence) on a man and it doesn't require him taking her to an expensive restaurant and picking up the tab without flinching either.

In many cases, such a man doesn't have to do a damn thing but exist!

As long as he has/projects a great confident energy and of course shows an interest in her and is attractive physically (to HER) that's all it takes.

And again if having a great job, making good money and having status gets you to that internal place, good for you!

@We_ArE_VeNOM you obviously don't need to have great job, make money or have status - heck my guess is you could be homeless and you'd still have that swag. Lol:rofl:

But not all men can.... so whatever it takes, a man should do.
 
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First off to @We_ArE_VeNOM ....it's NOT about having money.

See my below response to @Gamisch .

I totally get what you're saying @Gamisch , feel free to correct me if Im wrong.

Attracting women boils down to the energy you project and if having a great job, money and a certain status results in you having and projecting a great confident energy, more power to ya!
There's nothing wrong with exhibiting confident energy, as a result of financial or career success.

I'm not knocking that.

However, in a nut shell, @Gamisch is taking it a step further by stating a man should lead with his wallet...which, in my opinion is a cardinal sin in the dating game.

All you're doing is setting yourself up for golddiggers and manipulative timewasters.

You want to impress me?

Pull women without leading with your wallet.

As a woman I'm not gonna know you have money/status when we first meet however I will notice your great energy - your confidence, how you carry yourself, your commanding presence.

Sure it's possible a man living in his parent's basement who has a mediocre job that pays little and chases skirt all day might have that same confident energy and swag; I haven't seen it myself (in real life) but it's possible I suppose.
Oh, so basically what your saying is, you've only ever seen men who are over a certain tax bracket and have a certain amount of material possessions, that will exude such confident energy and swag?

So the rest of the general population (in your world) are depressed, pathetic creatures?

Is that what it is?

Like you said, women can smell this stuff (great energy and confidence) on a man and it doesn't require him taking her to an expensive restaurant and picking up the tab without flinching either.

In many cases, such a man doesn't have to do a damn thing but exist!

As long as he has/projects a great confident energy and of course shows an interest in her and is attractive physically (to HER) that's all it takes.

And again if having a great job, making good money and having status gets you to that internal place, good for you!
Yeah, it will get you to that place of women not being attracted to you, but attracted to your money.

Just because she is attracted to your money, doesn't mean she is sexually attracted to the person.

Her: I am dating/married to a doctor who makes 200k a year.

Me: Cool. Are you sexually attracted to him?

Her: :rolleyes: .

How do you think golddiggers and manipulative timewasters stay in business?

Because of shiit like that.

@We_ArE_VeNOM you obviously don't need to have great job, make money or have status - heck my guess is you could be homeless and you'd still have that swag. Lol:rofl:

But not all men can.... so whatever it takes, a man should do.
Sure, whatever it takes :rolleyes:.
 

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However, in a nut shell, @Gamisch is taking it a step further by stating a man should lead with his wallet...which, in my opinion is a cardinal sin in the dating game.
I didn't interpret his post that way Venom but perhaps Gamisch could clarify? I agree a man should never lead with his wallet.

Like you said, women can smell this stuff (great energy and confidence) on a man and it doesn't require him taking her to an expensive restaurant and picking up the tab without flinching either.

In many cases, such a man doesn't have to do a damn thing but exist!

As long as he has/projects a great confident energy and of course shows an interest in her and is attractive physically (to HER) that's all it takes.

And again if having a great job, making good money and having status gets you to that internal place of having confidence and great energy, good for you!
Not sure how from this (above quote) you got to that (below quote) but it's not what I meant at all. The exact opposite in fact.

Yeah, it will get you to that place of women not being attracted to you, but attracted to your money.

Just because she is attracted to your money, doesn't mean she is sexually attracted to the person.
For many men (not all) a great job, making good money along with working out etc all contribute to his having and projecting great energy (i.e. confidence and "swag").

It's not about the money.
 
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There's nothing wrong with exhibiting confident energy, as a result of financial or career success.

I'm not knocking that.

However, in a nut shell, @Gamisch is taking it a step further by stating a man should lead with his wallet...which, in my opinion is a cardinal sin in the dating game.

All you're doing is setting yourself up for golddiggers and manipulative timewasters.

You want to impress me?

Pull women without leading with your wallet.



Oh, so basically what your saying is, you've only ever seen men who are over a certain tax bracket and have a certain amount of material possessions, that will exude such confident energy and swag?

So the rest of the general population (in your world) are depressed, pathetic creatures?

Is that what it is?



Yeah, it will get you to that place of women not being attracted to you, but attracted to your money.

Just because she is attracted to your money, doesn't mean she is sexually attracted to the person.

Her: I am dating/married to a doctor who makes 200k a year.

Me: Cool. Are you sexually attracted to him?

Her: :rolleyes: .

How do you think golddiggers and manipulative timewasters stay in business?

Because of shiit like that.



Sure, whatever it takes :rolleyes:.
Now your twisting my words.

I don't say a man should lead with his wallet, but he should make sure his wallet game is strong. What's wrong with that??? I'm on this planet long enough to know what's for sell.

I clearly stated that I have been doing broke dating my entire life. All it does was giving me stress. Nowadays I focused on other things and the improvement is staggering. This can only be known by experiencing both.

It is easy to be broke and to say" it's a sin to spend money on women ". Everything in life is about money. That shouldn't be a revelation.

And sexual attraction is in the eye of the beholder. It can be strong today and dissappear tomorrow. Not one man is immune to this. You keep ignoring my statement that all it takes is a carbon copied of yourself who is thriving to show a woman that there is more to life than walking dates and the back of the car.

One antidote does not prove how this world spins my brother. Watch her switch up after dating Pookie for a year and ask her if she is sexually attracted to Pookie after a year
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You just argue for the sake of arguing now,not to have a constructive conversation
 
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I didn't interpret his post that way Venom but perhaps Gamisch could clarify? I agree a man should never lead with his wallet.



Not sure how from this (above quote) you got to that (below quote) but it's not what I meant at all. The exact opposite in fact.



For many men (not all) a great job, making good money along with working out etc all contribute to his having and projecting great energy (i.e. confidence and "swag").

It's not about the money.
It's a typical black thing.

We are the poorest demographic thus other rules apply. Other demographics are busy conquering land, real-estate and power.

We value roaming the streets chasing wh0res. This is the type of energy many black men grow up with. So two effects happen: one is that a lot of quality women are reluctant to be around us because they know we will play the " durr durr money bad" game. 2 is that valuable time is spent on the wrong activities. 3 is eventually we chase the same woman who will be open to approach, mouthpiece, back of the car sex ect creates beefs, stds and a broken culture where degenerative behavior is rewarded over generational wealth creation.

Sad to see but true nevertheless. At some point a man MUST shift his focus away from women being the number 1 priority in life. The irony is that that same man will actually IMPROVE his dating life.

But venom is now just arguing to argue.
 

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Money as the source of your energy is a mistake. One day you look around and you realize, “okay I have ‘x’ in the bank and I’m surrounded by a bunch of guys that also have that, if not more”…now what - where’s the next source of energy … being in constant competition with society is unhealthy, its a game you’ll never win
 

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Money as the source of your energy is a mistake. One day you look around and you realize, “okay I have ‘x’ in the bank and I’m surrounded by a bunch of guys that also have that, if not more”…now what - where’s the next source of energy … being in constant competition with society is unhealthy, its a game you’ll never win
I get that.

Somehow people miss my actual point, perhaps I should word it better. If all you ever knew was being broke, then money MIGHT be the missing link that held you back from truly being the best version you can be.

I mean, don't you believe the same thing can be said for " love being the nr source of energy "? Or friends? Or fun? They're all fickle in their own ways.

I don't disagree with you by the way. I need to let it sink in for a while. Food for thoughts..
 

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I get that.

Somehow people miss my actual point, perhaps I should word it better. If all you ever knew was being broke, then money MIGHT be the missing link that held you back from truly being the best version you can be.

I mean, don't you believe the same thing can be said for " love being the nr source of energy "? Or friends? Or fun? They're all fickle in their own ways.

I don't disagree with you by the way. I need to let it sink in for a while. Food for thoughts..
Oh I’ve been broke. Being broke sucks and it’s a huge motivation. It can be one of, if not the largest , clouds that tints the way I see everything else around me. The problem with making money after being broke is that it can fuel a big reaction in the other direction and cause a huge amount of trouble or stress in its own right.

I agree with your point about not letting any one ‘thing’ be your source of happiness. Having money, friends, love, those are all important parts of a life - but they can all go away in the flash of a second.

Then what? What attracted them there in the first place?
 

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Now your twisting my words.

I don't say a man should lead with his wallet, but he should make sure his wallet game is strong.
I didn't interpret his post that way Venom but perhaps Gamisch could clarify? I agree a man should never lead with his wallet.
This is to the both of ya.

But..

@Gamisch ain't nobody twisting your words, because that is exactly what you insinuated; that a man should lead with his wallet.

You keep talking all this stuff about how a man should focus on, and step up his money game, and how women will magically sniff out a man who has money..which is precisely why I asked you how will a woman know you have money in the first place?

Remember that?

And one of your ways of answering that question was "Well, when I walk around with confidence, and when I can cover the check without even looking at it". (I'm paraphrasing).

"Cover the check" is your way to get the woman to think..

"Wow, he covered the check without even looking at it. He certainly must have money!!".

See, everything comes back to the money, thus; leading with your wallet.

If the driving force behind your confidence and actions is your money, and women are sniffing (your word) you out because of your money...

Then guess what...

You are LEADING WITH YOUR WALLET.

I don't need to twist your words, not when the truth works so much better.

How about this; get women to be sexually attracted to you, BEFORE they know you have money.

And have them offering to cover the check, despite knowing or caring if you have money.

How about that?

Do you have enough game for that to happen?

What's wrong with that??? I'm on this planet long enough to know what's for sell.

I clearly stated that I have been doing broke dating my entire life. All it does was giving me stress.
Do tell; why did "broke dating" cause you stress?

Nowadays I focused on other things and the improvement is staggering. This can only be known by experiencing both.

It is easy to be broke and to say" it's a sin to spend money on women ". Everything in life is about money. That shouldn't be a revelation.
Guess what...I've been having the time of my life with women, over the past 6-8 months...and it has NEVER been about the money.

Money isn't even part of the equation or discussion.

It's only part of the equation to unworthy, high maintenance golddiggers and manipulative timewasters.

And with Mode One and Direct Game, you can "sniff" those types out reallll quick.

And sexual attraction is in the eye of the beholder. It can be strong today and dissappear tomorrow. Not one man is immune to this. You keep ignoring my statement that all it takes is a carbon copied of yourself who is thriving to show a woman that there is more to life than walking dates and the back of the car.


I'm ignoring it, because that's not my point of contention.

One antidote does not prove how this world spins my brother. Watch her switch up after dating Pookie for a year and ask her if she is sexually attracted to Pookie after a year.
Yeah, but also after a year, Pookie might not be attracted to her either.

So it goes both ways.

You just argue for the sake of arguing now,not to have a constructive conversation
It is constructive to me. :cool:
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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