You Take Risk, You Fail but you also Learn Something

[Phenomenal One]

here a good story for everyone

i'm on myspace and i send a girl a message,
(basiclly sayin that i was interested in her).
without even having a conversation with me she gives me her number,
i thought maybe that was too easy.
while setting up a time/place where we can meet up, (i did'nt notice this at the time)
she seemed very unsure about me.

meet up # 1 :

we planned to meet up in front of a building that at a certain time is very crowded . i wanted to meet up at a nice park a block away
(the park is an community park with a pool, mini golf course, basketball court, tennis court, just a great park to go to). she suggested we meet up infront of the building. i waited in front of the building in a spot thats not so crowded but i didn't see her, i waited for a while before leaving.

i call her a half an hour later, she says she didnt see me and we both agree we should meet up at the park.

meet up #2 :

i'm walking in the park enjoying the weather when i realize time has flow by and she not here. i call her to ask her where she is and shes at a basketball game.

(in a calm and cool voice) i tell her that it's messed up to say your gonna meet someone at a certain place and go back on your word, she agrees and i set up another time.

meet up # 3 does'nt even happen.

she calls me an hour before we meet up to tell me she was'nt interested in meeting me in person.

the funny thing was my reaction to it, i was HAPPY.
i took a risk, failed and learned a lesson.
i'm not known for taking alot of risk,
but as long as i was improving myself & living life i was contant.

i learned a couple of lessons

- just because a girl gives you her number, nothing may come of it.
- you can't use past interest/attraction as the basis for interest/attraction in the present. (i read a post here on that subject that made me think of this)
- a girl being unsure about you can play a big role in how she sees you.

 

[LDBaha]

You shouldn't have setup a third meet. That was very Wussy-like..

 

[Interceptor]

It's really good to see the progress youve made.
Good for you.
Keep it up.
No woman decides your worth and value.
No woman defines you.
And no woman has any final 'word' on who you are as a human being.
Everyone has a right to be attracted to whatever they are attracted to.
Don't resent someone for being attracted to something else than what you
appear to possess.

Ultimately, the majority of women are attracted to masculinity and the strength of character. These things arent always obvious on the surface.
Find comfort in that, and let yourself trust that.

 

[Phenomenal One]

You shouldn't have setup a third meet. That was very Wussy-like..

yeah, i realize that now lol

 

[Phenomenal One]

It's really good to see the progress youve made.
Good for you.
Keep it up.
No woman decides your worth and value.
No woman defines you.
And no woman has any final 'word' on who you are as a human being.
Everyone has a right to be attracted to whatever they are attracted to.
Don't resent someone for being attracted to something else than what you
appear to possess.

Ultimately, the majority of women are attracted to masculinity and the strength of character. These things arent always obvious on the surface.
Find comfort in that, and let yourself trust that.

thanks for the advice and the rep, did'nt notice it until now.

i've been stagnate for a while but lately i've been getting back in the picture