You should be thanking your lucky stars that you're a frustrated Bachelor instead of a dude going through a Divorce

[Travel memoir21]

We often think that we have it tough as 'lonely' frustrated Bachelors but the truth of the matter is, life moves on and you shrugged it off and sleep peacefully in the evening. In these cases, this scenario is not as easy to sleep off in the middle of the night, if you know what I mean. Here's a conversation between my buddy whose about to go through a divorce and myself:

Buddy: It’s been a crazy week bro. Not gonna lie I was already about to throw in the towel Tuesday morning. **** has been going wrong for me left and right, and Monday I signed my divorce papers..so I drank all night, then went to work Tuesday and said I was sick so I could come home just down a bunch of pills and booze hoping I’d just get beyond fkd up and not wake up…then I got a call at 11:30 before I left at 12 saying I got the job.

I was gonna throw in the towel Tuesday morning and that **** saved me. Even though I’m going to be fkn lost and make a fool out of myself coaching basketball it kind of saved me.

No one knows that though..so that’s between you and I. I have weak moments where I don’t see a good ending in sight and I’ll just dive down hard. Sometimes it’s just getting ****faced..very seldom does it get to the point of no return but it did Tuesday morning.


Me: Brother, I am here for you if you ever need anything. Your a great guy, charasmatic young dude and your creative enough to start all over from scratch, start new projects and bounce back financially. Lean on inner strength inside you for support, talk to your pastor or a priest or a friar or a therapist of some kind for emotional guidance if you have to. You can get yourself out of this, read more books and drink more wine instead of hard liquor, you got this.

do you take meds for depression?


Buddy: I’ve tried all that bro. I’ve seen therapists for the last 15+ years..I’ve done the rehab thing..and I know I have it in me to bounce back twice as good as I was before. And I’ll show it on the outside, but inside I just know I put myself in positions to fail. And I will, then have to fight my way back up. It makes me stronger, but the weak times are fkn dark. Yeah I take anti depressants; anxiety meds; meds for my nerve damage, heart meds. I take a number of meds every day to not go crazy. Without them I wouldn’t be here right now. The anxiety, even with working out every day and staying busy, creeps up before bed when I can’t do **** but lay around and think. The depression comes and goes but when it hits it hits hard. I’m always in pain from my herniated disks but I won’t take pain pills. I know myself too well and I’ll get hooked on them. So I just deal with it.



So As you can see, this guy could have taken his own life this month out of signing a piece of document that could ruin every single aspect of his life. I think it's not even about the Divorce at all, there's deeper issues here that needs to be addressed. But anyways as a Bachelor, please be thankful for what you have and that you're not smitten by some wh0re that could ruin your life in a moment's notice.

 

[Westminster]

Divorce - especially if you are faced with a vindictive woman - can be a nightmare. Trust me, I know: the lies, greed, threats, false accusations, weaponisation of the children, ruining my reputation, etc. Not to mention the massive cost. It was the worst two years of my life and caused me a lot of damage.

I am sorry to sound so negative but I could never advise any man to get married nowadays. By all means have relationships with women, even have kids, but do not get married. Because once it goes wrong, you are simply a sitting duck.

If you're ever tempted to get married, remember, the woman you divorce will not be the same woman you married and, as a man, the law, especially family law, is heavily loaded against you.

 

[Gamisch]

That's the price every man will pay eventually. The biggest flex on other men is having a faithful wife. Thus we will ignore warning signs from other men and jump in regardless.

Add women's games to the mix ( being their best self.for 3 months to up to 2 years) and EVERY man is vulnerable and can fall for this trap. .

 

[Travel memoir21]

That's the price every man will pay eventually. The biggest flex on other men is having a faithful wife. Thus we will ignore warning signs from other men and jump in regardless.

Add women's games to the mix ( being their best self.for 3 months to up to 2 years) and EVERY man is vulnerable and can fall for this trap. .

Since you're East Asian, do you believe in Karma or its effects? It seems like some of the best people I know with decent relationships weren't looking for it, it just naturally evolved over time and it came to them spontaneously and suddenly.

 

[Gamisch]

Since you're East Asian, do you believe in Karma or its effects? It seems like some of the best people I know with decent relationships weren't looking for it, it just naturally evolved over time and it came to them spontaneously and suddenly.

E Asian? My grandfather is partly Chinese but I identify as black.

I do believe in karma, but more on a individual level. Especially when we talk about women and love ..I've seen too many men being good guys yet they got played ( inc yours truly).

When you start to connect the dots and women throw themselves at you you've received your " good karma".

 

[Divorced w 3]

i don't know if this is actually possible, but if i were to do it again, it would involve a prenup that stated the divorce is sent to arbitration. the courts have no time for these hearings and the attorneys will murder you with fees on letters that will never get in front of those courts, and at the end of the day there is a set formula for the entire process, except for the parenting plan. the children are always the hook in the divorce - the attorneys can't say it out loud but they will never settle the economics before the parenting, leaving the divorce behest at the parenting plan. nonetheless, have a smart attorney handle parenting for you in better times, if possible, somehow.