"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You remind me of my father

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What does it mean when a girl says “you remind me of my father and brother”?

Would this be a kiss of death, or that she sees something ideal within you?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What does it mean when a girl says “you remind me of my father and brother”?

Would this be a kiss of death, or that she sees something ideal within you?
Means u r sweet but a bore.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She said because she feels comfortable, in my specific case.
Ok......?

Well it's certainly something I'd never want to hear....under ANY circumstances.

The comfort thing is good,but.....you DO KNOW that TOO MUCH comfort + little to no attraction = "Let's just be Friends"......right?

Would it be a safe bet to assume that you two haven't done ANYTHING SEXUAL yet? No kissing,touching,full on sex,make out,or anything?

Cause if you two have,and have been doing it for a while,and then she said that......well.....that's just downright...odd.
 

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It depends on her relationship with her father. If it is a good one and her father has been a good role model for her, she feels safe and comfortable with you.
 

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I tend to attract a lot of daddy's girls. I've heard these same sentiments before and they have always came from a place of admiration/respect/appreciation/value. Never been a bad thing for me, always been a compliment.
 

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I have always dated younger women never one my age or older so there is always the "daddy" dynamic thing going on and it is quite natural and not weird at all.They usually tell me in a good way " Red Legg you remind me so much of my father" or " Red Legg you would have gotten along great with my dad" or the granddaddy of them all " Red Legg you look just like my daddy" as I get older I have become quite good at daddy game.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I remind you of your father? Then you better be a good girl for me or I’ll have to spank you…
It would be fun too see if they are a hand,paddle,or belt girl.:eek:
 
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I think this is something that's said mostly in a positive sense, but it depends on how she views her father/brother. You'll know if it's good or bad judging by the way she says it or in what context, that pretty much goes for anything they say though.
 

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No we haven’t fooled around. Not even a kiss. It’s been an interesting case, to say the least. Her signals are everywhere.

Her profile on tinder said “no hookups or relationships”. She’s eluded to she just wants friendships right now. Although, she’s told me I’m really attractive, and she texted me immediately after our second hangout telling me sweet dreams with a kiss blowing face. But we’ve also talked about our exes and stuff too, there’s a ton of transparency. Much like friendship with someone, however there is also sexual tension which I can tell.

Her words are all over the place. One second saying friends, the next saying I’m attractive. Her actions; she is quite reserved and timid, good body language, touches me.

I haven’t been escalating per my usual strategy because I almost believe her friendship would be more worth it than pursuing something sexual.
She’s Italian and just came to America One month ago. So culturally she could be different? I dunno.

I have a couple other plates I’m sleeping with so I’m honestly just enjoying the time I’ve spent with her so far. It’s nice to connect on different levels aside from just purely sexual with women. Sounds crazy, I know.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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First ‘date’ we went for a hike.

Second ‘date’ she came over to my place (she had brought a bottle of wine); we were supposed to watch an Italian movie - 8 1/2 - but we ended up continuing to drink wine and talked for 6 hours on my couch. Then she cabbed home and sent “Thank you so much for the evening/night!! So good talking and drinking... good night and sweet dreams (kiss face emoji) ”
 

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If you are lookinv to f this girl you need to make a move. Otherwise, you will just be friendzoned.
First ‘date’ we went for a hike.

Second ‘date’ she came over to my place (she had brought a bottle of wine); we were supposed to watch an Italian movie - 8 1/2 - but we ended up continuing to drink wine and talked for 6 hours on my couch. Then she cabbed home and sent “Thank you so much for the evening/night!! So good talking and drinking... good night and sweet dreams (kiss face emoji) ”
 

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First ‘date’ we went for a hike.

Second ‘date’ she came over to my place (she had brought a bottle of wine); we were supposed to watch an Italian movie - 8 1/2 - but we ended up continuing to drink wine and talked for 6 hours on my couch. Then she cabbed home and sent “Thank you so much for the evening/night!! So good talking and drinking... good night and sweet dreams (kiss face emoji) ”
Dude you reading too much into it and getting strung along . Fvck an emoji.
 

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If you are lookinv to f this girl you need to make a move. Otherwise, you will just be friendzoned.
Yea I can agree. Like I said, this isn’t my usual strategy not to make moves. Simply in this situation, I don’t know which way I want to take it.

On one hand, we could make great friends. Our passion is in the same industry, we can talk continuously, and I have fun in the process.

On the other, she seems great and we do have a good connection, and I wouldn’t mind getting sexual.

It’s difficult to meet genuine people who I connect with, with ease. So the first option seems pretty good.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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