You PUA's

[PrettyBoyAJ]

To all the guys that are PUA or aspiring to be "Don Juans":

You guys focus too much on details. Instead of masterbating mentally (What I call it) you guys just need to do what you need to do. Quit asking questions like "What do I say when X, Y, and Z happens." "If she says this then what do I say". When someone gives you some good advice some people here have a habit of consistently asking different questions. The reason you are not succesful with woman is because you think too much about little petty stuff that really doesn't matter.

What you need to do is make general guidelines for yourself about gaming and never compromise those values that you have instilled in yourself. You shouldn't be caught up in this mental masterbation. When you talk less and act more you will get better results. When you experiment yourself you find things that work for you.

I'm not perfect, I have a lot of girls but recently the cutest girl I had on my team dropped me (She was baddddddd. Dimepiece). For a day I was just thinking about what I did wrong? What I could've changed? I'm not used to a girl charging me..... Then I realized I wasted half a day thinking about a girl when I should have just charged it to experience and keep moving. Many guys here are doing the same thing. Quit analyzing every little detail and keep it moving!

 

[TheMale]

great stuff.

i'm really often in that situation (mental masturbation), and your post just showed me i'm wrong to do so.

anyway thx for sharing !

 

[coochieman]

Accepted!!!

 

[shizz702]

Good stuff as always AJ.

Paralysis by analysis is what holds a lot of peeps back in life.

Sometimes it is best to just do and not think.

Learn from your experiences and set some standards for yourself to live by.

 

[nightcrawler]

To all the guys that are PUA or aspiring to be "Don Juans":

You guys focus too much on details. Instead of masterbating mentally (What I call it) you guys just need to do what you need to do. Quit asking questions like "What do I say when X, Y, and Z happens." "If she says this then what do I say". When someone gives you some good advice some people here have a habit of consistently asking different questions. The reason you are not succesful with woman is because you think too much about little petty stuff that really doesn't matter.

What you need to do is make general guidelines for yourself about gaming and never compromise those values that you have instilled in yourself. You shouldn't be caught up in this mental masterbation. When you talk less and act more you will get better results. When you experiment yourself you find things that work for you.

I'm not perfect, I have a lot of girls but recently the cutest girl I had on my team dropped me (She was baddddddd. Dimepiece). For a day I was just thinking about what I did wrong? What I could've changed? I'm not used to a girl charging me..... Then I realized I wasted half a day thinking about a girl when I should have just charged it to experience and keep moving. Many guys here are doing the same thing. Quit analyzing every little detail and keep it moving!

nothing wrong with analyzing.

If you want something bad enough you don't just "move on"

 

[jglide123]

I agree.

While most of the PUA types can tell you everything you want to know about game, few of them can apply it successfully; many guys who enter the "community" on a deep level usually suffer from serious self-esteem and social issues.

They make it seem as though women are some extraterrestrial species, and men need to equip themselves with the proper "tool set" in order to be successful. Not exactly the approach I want to take toward the opposite sex.

 

[Trump]

To all the guys that are PUA or aspiring to be "Don Juans":

You guys focus too much on details. Instead of masterbating mentally (What I call it) you guys just need to do what you need to do. Quit asking questions like "What do I say when X, Y, and Z happens." "If she says this then what do I say". When someone gives you some good advice some people here have a habit of consistently asking different questions. The reason you are not succesful with woman is because you think too much about little petty stuff that really doesn't matter.

What you need to do is make general guidelines for yourself about gaming and never compromise those values that you have instilled in yourself. You shouldn't be caught up in this mental masterbation. When you talk less and act more you will get better results. When you experiment yourself you find things that work for you.

I'm not perfect, I have a lot of girls but recently the cutest girl I had on my team dropped me (She was baddddddd. Dimepiece). For a day I was just thinking about what I did wrong? What I could've changed? I'm not used to a girl charging me..... Then I realized I wasted half a day thinking about a girl when I should have just charged it to experience and keep moving. Many guys here are doing the same thing. Quit analyzing every little detail and keep it moving!

I don't think you can be that aloof and go from one girl to another without analyzing the situation.

There are certain things that work very well and other things that don't, and if you don't listen and follow the people who have been there before, you'll never be successful. To experiment with your own thing in hopes that a girl will be attracted to you appears very emotional based and a bit risky, similar to going into a negotiation without knowing the facts.

 

[jglide123]

I don't think you can be that aloof and go from one girl to another without analyzing the situation.

There are certain things that work very well and other things that don't, and if you don't listen and follow the people who have been there before, you'll never be successful. To experiment with your own thing in hopes that a girl will be attracted to you appears very emotional based and a bit risky, similar to going into a negotiation without knowing the facts.

Fair points.

There's nothing wrong with analyzing dating situations. I think the OP was trying to state that many guys over-analyze dating, not that you shouldn't critique your past experiences and self-reflect on them at all. Also, I think a lot of PUA material dehumanizes women, and approach dating as if women are THAT different from men. Sure, there are clear differences between the sexes, but people have more in common than not.

It's often best to just go out and experience life in general. Nothing wrong with getting advice, but experience is often the best teacher....