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You NC, she contacts you, but what if she only does it twice?

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The assumption is that No Contact will make her contact you after a while but you are suppose to refrain from meeting up and ending the call/interaction asap. However she may contact you a second time, and you are still suppose to refrain from meeting up.

But do not some girls have self-respect for themselves especially girls from traditional socieites such as Russia/ex-Soviet countries where they believe the man should pursue the woman through and through and would not contact a guy more than once (twice max) then give up expecting him to come back to meet up or he isn't worth her time. Do the NC rules still apply?

Or is that NC causes sucha wave of emotion that they cannot help but keep contacting him till he caves in?

You hear many girls saying they respect themselves too much to pursue a guy even after his NC's and what about other guys who come into their lives? Wouldn't they just replace the loss of this one guy who's NC'ing?
 

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Only twice does mean low interest. Even the ones with respect would make it happen if they had enough interest in you. Interest level cuts all!

But sometimes at this point you might need to go in and raise her interest personally yourself.

If she never had the interest in the first place then twice would be good enough to take the initiative and get back to the girl and raise her interest. A new girl you've been seeing for a month or two.

But if she was your girlfriend for 6-7 months, and now she's only rung you twice after 2 weeks of no contact... thats different.
 

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I have not read the "NC" protocols here, but

Confused said:
The assumption is that No Contact will make her contact you after a while but you are suppose to refrain from meeting up and ending the call/interaction asap. However she may contact you a second time, and you are still suppose to refrain from meeting up.

But do not some girls have self-respect for themselves especially girls from traditional socieites such as Russia/ex-Soviet countries where they believe the man should pursue the woman through and through and would not contact a guy more than once (twice max) then give up expecting him to come back to meet up or he isn't worth her time. Do the NC rules still apply?

Or is that NC causes sucha wave of emotion that they cannot help but keep contacting him till he caves in?

You hear many girls saying they respect themselves too much to pursue a guy even after his NC's and what about other guys who come into their lives? Wouldn't they just replace the loss of this one guy who's NC'ing?

I have not read the "NC" protocols here on this site, but I have an opinion. If a woman has done something disrespectful, thus deserving "NC," would it not make more sense just to move on to other women? By getting back together with such a woman, it just proves to her that she can get away with whatever it is she did to make you go "NC" on her. And as an aside, I feel that phone/email/texting with women should be avoided as much as possible. Don't be so "available" because it just makes you look like the typical average guy. And you are obviously here on this site because you don't want to be average, right?
 
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