"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You NC, she contacts you, but what if she only does it twice?

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The assumption is that No Contact will make her contact you after a while but you are suppose to refrain from meeting up and ending the call/interaction asap. However she may contact you a second time, and you are still suppose to refrain from meeting up.

But do not some girls have self-respect for themselves especially girls from traditional socieites such as Russia/ex-Soviet countries where they believe the man should pursue the woman through and through and would not contact a guy more than once (twice max) then give up expecting him to come back to meet up or he isn't worth her time. Do the NC rules still apply?

Or is that NC causes sucha wave of emotion that they cannot help but keep contacting him till he caves in?

You hear many girls saying they respect themselves too much to pursue a guy even after his NC's and what about other guys who come into their lives? Wouldn't they just replace the loss of this one guy who's NC'ing?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Only twice does mean low interest. Even the ones with respect would make it happen if they had enough interest in you. Interest level cuts all!

But sometimes at this point you might need to go in and raise her interest personally yourself.

If she never had the interest in the first place then twice would be good enough to take the initiative and get back to the girl and raise her interest. A new girl you've been seeing for a month or two.

But if she was your girlfriend for 6-7 months, and now she's only rung you twice after 2 weeks of no contact... thats different.
 

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I have not read the "NC" protocols here, but

Confused said:
The assumption is that No Contact will make her contact you after a while but you are suppose to refrain from meeting up and ending the call/interaction asap. However she may contact you a second time, and you are still suppose to refrain from meeting up.

But do not some girls have self-respect for themselves especially girls from traditional socieites such as Russia/ex-Soviet countries where they believe the man should pursue the woman through and through and would not contact a guy more than once (twice max) then give up expecting him to come back to meet up or he isn't worth her time. Do the NC rules still apply?

Or is that NC causes sucha wave of emotion that they cannot help but keep contacting him till he caves in?

You hear many girls saying they respect themselves too much to pursue a guy even after his NC's and what about other guys who come into their lives? Wouldn't they just replace the loss of this one guy who's NC'ing?

I have not read the "NC" protocols here on this site, but I have an opinion. If a woman has done something disrespectful, thus deserving "NC," would it not make more sense just to move on to other women? By getting back together with such a woman, it just proves to her that she can get away with whatever it is she did to make you go "NC" on her. And as an aside, I feel that phone/email/texting with women should be avoided as much as possible. Don't be so "available" because it just makes you look like the typical average guy. And you are obviously here on this site because you don't want to be average, right?
 
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