Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"you must get alot of girls"

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Not to brag (although that's how some here might take it), I'm a real good looking guy. Usually on my first date with a girl, we'll be making out, and she'll come up with the obligatory

HB: "You must do this alot/You must get alot of girls"
Me: "Why"
HB: "Because you're hot/gorgeous/etc."

I mean, it's cool to hear, but it's like some of these girls won't trust me because they assume I'm this huge player.

Anyone had any similar experiences, or advice on what to say at this point...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Agree and move on. Or say "I bet you've broken your fair share of hearts..." Whatever you say, the important thing is to not protest or argue.
 

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In addition to what you've said, I'll usually get the "are you sure you're not married?"
 

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it happens to me quite a bit -- not always because of my looks, but just because of how i act towards women/how i make them feel...
generally you should take those comments as a good sign -- many women actually LIKE the feeling that you're a little dangerous, and MIGHT be taking advantage of them..
besides, they like the feeling that they're getting something that is in great demand, as players usually are...
but you should be aware that the "you're hot" thing is also a double-edged sword. lots of women (including many women i know) will hold out in the short-term for a wimpy guy because he's good looking, but if you can't keep her interest on an emotional "gut" level, she won't keep you around. sometimes her rhapsodizing about how "gorgeous" a guy is helps her to fool herself (though only for a short time) and obscure the fact that he doesn't really make her happy...
so it's cool that these girls think you're attractive but you should especially take these compliments with a grain of salt.
 

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There is only one answer for this ever.

"I don't usually discuss that sort of thing."

Solves all the problems, plus adds the required mystery.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girls have brought up my "sluttiness" in the past.
 

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This is a $hit test, if I ever saw one.
 

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Hey man I get that heaps just about every girl I know says that to me, but not due to looks just my personality, I just reply with I will not answer that and we will not discuss it, with a slight smile. as some one else said just dont deny it as you look like a wuss and yes it is a test.
 

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I'll usually try to flip it around on the girl, say "well you must get alot of guys then" or something to that extent...



Originally posted by smoke city

but you should be aware that the "you're hot" thing is also a double-edged sword. lots of women (including many women i know) will hold out in the short-term for a wimpy guy because he's good looking, but if you can't keep her interest on an emotional "gut" level, she won't keep you around. sometimes her rhapsodizing about how "gorgeous" a guy is helps her to fool herself (though only for a short time) and obscure the fact that he doesn't really make her happy...
so it's cool that these girls think you're attractive but you should especially take these compliments with a grain of salt.
nah I understand that, but I know what I'm doing... I have a good sense of humor and know how to talk to girls... if I didn't, I'd get NOTHING, cuz very few times have good looking girls approached me - I need to do all the initiating. I'll hear from a chicks friend that she likes me or thinks i'm attractive or whatever, but very rarely straight from the girl's mouth to my ears.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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