"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You know what would really help? A womens perspective of the game.

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Think about it, if we knew from a women's perspective, how it feels to be approached and had a good idea of what a girl thinks when she's approached, that would really help a lot of newbies out. So are there any "female" equilvalents to SoSuave or any sites that give a women's perspective about getting approached by men? If anyone knows of any sites like these, make sure to post them.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Interesting idea, when the one woman who posts here is constantly berated as being an idiot, chump-maker, devil's advocate, and so on, just because the closed minded guys here don't like the advice she has to give, regardless of whether on not it makes sense.

I don't think any guy on here is very receptive of a woman's point of view, because it collides with their own limited world view.
 

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Its not all that much of a 'game' or 'espionage' with these women, alot is flowing with it. Spying on their girly secerets may help some but what helps alot more is being friends with a girl, and by that I dont mean a tool but just a friend. Trust me, they will let you know whats hot or not.

You may find some relationship girl perspectives here: http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=forum;f=3
 

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trust me a womans perspective sucks.

its 'i want a guy to talk with, a guy to tell me i'm beautiful, a guy to hold me alot, a guy who doesnt want sex, a guy who will do my homework fix my car pick me up tell me i'm great etc'

and when they talk about being approached/their game, they lie. not really, but they are so trained to play it out they just say things that hold no meaning. they say if a guy is an *******, leave him. but they wont. and they say if a guy doesnt call you, forget about him. but they wont. girls are illogical and never follow their own advice. this site tells you about them, their site tells them how they want to be seen.
 

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there are enough women at sosuave where you dont really have to leave the board to go to another online site.
the other online sites are not as good really.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Any girl that goes to online dating site must be ugly, cause they dont have to do much work if they're good looking just sit there and wait for the guys to approach. We have the harder job.
 

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Nzo said:
Any girl that goes to online dating site must be ugly, cause they dont have to do much work if they're good looking just sit there and wait for the guys to approach. We have the harder job.
Not entirely accurate. I don't try to pick up chicks that just sit there and look good. They have to interest us just as much as we have to interest them.

I still don't think that you're going to find a female equivalent of this site, that's what women's restrooms are for.
 

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What ever you do don't get any perspective from a girl, its going to be just AFC talk they don't know wtf they really want. You already got all the help you need from all the seduction sites that actually work. You want to just sit down and hear about how nice you have to be and pay for everything...Don't bother with this idea trust me you will be going backwards instead of forward.
 

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Distant Light said:
What ever you do don't get any perspective from a girl, its going to be just AFC talk they don't know wtf they really want. You already got all the help you need from all the seduction sites that actually work. You want to just sit down and hear about how nice you have to be and pay for everything...Don't bother with this idea trust me you will be going backwards instead of forward.
like i said.
 

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The reason site's like this exist is because women have no idea what they want. The guys who do what the girl says gets nothing which is why I found this site.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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