"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You know what i like about this forum?

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It's simple.. besides that it has helps me in words I can't describe with women...
it's one of the only places, not just online, but offline, that actually adds value to your life.

Name 2 other forums outside of this one that actually have the capacity to add significant amount of value to your life? I mean yeah, we have our share of flammers, KBJs and so on, but this forum is like a lot of guys who give a damn about each other, want to see each other succeed and shoots it to ya straight at all times.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What I like is there's people here who have the same train of thought. Try discussing women with an AFC and they'll tell you to buy her flowers, she needs some time, etc etc.

The discussions about women here can really open one's mind and eliminate all the bull5hit that society has programmed into the minds of the average joe.
 

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actually it's funny. I am so used to talking to you guys, I don't have to explain why I do what I do.. it's how it's supposed to be done.

I caught myself giving this guy an 1 hour leture over something so basic as not putting a woman first in your life.

My two best friends arent' Major AFC's.. I would venture to say they are not DJ"s but whatever it is in between.

Anyone else I know is clueless.

This one guy bought this girl, a CAR and hasn't had sex with her yet.

One girl I know has talked to this girl for a year and hasn't ****ed her yet. One Freakin Year. And he wants to marry her. and he wants to have sex!

And he had the never to explain to me how he was better than me because he doesn't dwell on wanting sex.

So i explained to him that I don't dwell on it, (I have ****ed his "girl" more than he has over the last year) but sex is a natural part of any relationship, the fact that you are denying that you want it is not only not attractive, it makes you androgous
 

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Yeah... The thing that I like is how people here are so open minded and accepting. lol. My AFC friend thinks I talk to players online. It hasnt even occured to him that I talk to cool guys who have game and want to pass on knowledge so that I can be happy in life and be able to get what I want in life. I dont want to be a player, I want to be a guy who can get anything he wants girls, money, sucess, etc.

Just my $0.02
 

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Our ancestors envy us.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I agree with you Backbreaker. It might sound corny, but whenever I was out in the field I'd often feel like you guys were behind me supporting me. I also felt if I had a bad experience you guys were here to put me back on track and stop me giving up.

Now that I'm in a steady relationship, I still find the motivation on this forum to continue improving myself and seek a better quality of life, rather than falling into complacency.

It's scary to think how I would be if I'd never discovered this forum. Thanks guys!
 

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you from arkasnas?

anyway, Yeah, I saw every minute of that game... we need a new coach in the worst way, my Jr High School Basketball team played with more disipline
 
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Yes! I live in Fayetteville. Its awesome to see someone else from this state on here. Stan Heath needs to go to hell. We have some extremely excellent talent in Ronnie and Ferguson and a few other guys but we need a new tried and true coach as well as a proven 3 point shooter. And we need a more effective passing game if we want to be looked at seriously.

And Bucknell's passing game this afternoon is what truly killed us. And an effective passing game in my mind means you get to control the pace and tempo of the game, and you get better opportunities to make some baskets.

Arkansas didn't do that. I was impressed by Steven Hill blocking 4 shots in 10 minutes.
 

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don't get me started on Arkansas.. Mike Jones, the guy who graduated last year is actually my first cousin. He hates stan heath from the bottom of his heart.

Arkansas plays with athletes, they have no sense of fundmental basketball conepts, like switching screens, SHOOTING (no one on our team, besides maybe McCurdy, has what you would call an idea shooting form).. the offense is stagnent at all times and you are right, they don't use the pass to spreed the defense out.

I think that 5 game winning streak was the worst thing that could have happened
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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don't get me started on Arkansas.. Mike Jones, the guy who graduated last year is actually my first cousin. He hates stan heath from the bottom of his heart.

Arkansas plays with athletes, they have no sense of fundmental basketball conepts, like switching screens, SHOOTING (no one on our team, besides maybe McCurdy, has what you would call an idea shooting form).. the offense is stagnent at all times and you are right, they don't use the pass to spreed the defense out.

I think that 5 game winning streak was the worst thing that could have happened
 
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lol. What do you mean it was the worst thing? as in, it got to our heads? if so, I agree.

Ronnie Brewer's dad taught me how to play basketball in my younger years and while he's knowledgable, his shooting style is definately weird..like i don't know but its really really awkward but it DOES make sense, in a way..

Mike Jones..sounds familiar, what position he play?
 

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Ronnie knows the game.. he just can't shoot.

Mike Jones was the 6'9 SF/PF that shot too many damn threes last year
 
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oh ok! I do remember him. Thats cool that you guys are cousins. What is he doing now?

You ever visit Fayetteville?
 
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