“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You know what I find weird? Love.

Atom Smasher

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Love is the only four-letter word around here. In fact I'm surprised the site doesn't render it ****.

It's sad and strange that all our efforts are focused on avoiding loving a woman, and instead using her until we find her unsuitable. Love is no longer rendered "love", but rather represented by the euphemism, "oneitis".

When you really think about this you realize how far we've fallen as a society. More specifically, how far women have fallen. It even feels weird to type the "L" word to me.

Guys come on here and lament about a broken heart, and are met with the declaration that they have "oneitis" and are given advice as to how to overcome it. The fact is, the guy loved her and now she's gone, whatever the reason.

I hope that one day, after men rise up en masse and restore order to this sickly fallen society, that the term "oneitis" will be unecessary and that the concept of loving a woman will return. Sadly, we are far from that right now and it could be that only a nuclear holocaust will restore male/female relationships, where "behave civilly or die" will be the rule of the day.

As it stands now, it's hard to love these spoiled, entitled brats. But they have been psychologically invaded by the media, at their weakest points, and been turned into the non-civil atrocities that the media (and politicians) wanted them to be.

Yet once in a while along comes a girl who is seemingly less affected than most, who has some apparent decency about her. A guy falls in love with her, and settles into a comfortable relationship. This is the kind of relationship grandma used to value, but not today's insatiable woman. No, she must be entertained, satisfied, and you know all the rest. The fact is that the attributes that men value with each other (decency, friendliness, respect, sacrifice, helfulness, attainment of stability) are devalued and even reviled by virtually all women.

So this needle in a haystack that the guy found and fell in love with treats her well, and she grows to revile him. The very same things that other men would respect him for have turned her away due to her inability to escape the prevailing herd mentality that even she is affected by.

What a world we are in. How sad that "love" is now an archaic, useless term and has been replaced with "oneitis". How sad that a man falling in love with a women today is a recipe for disaster unless he maintains game.

The powers that be knew that the way to destroy the man is through the woman. In order to implement the master plan of turning the male population into a collection of unthinking, unquestioning worker drones, all they had to do was brainwash women, who are prone to this. Add to that a feminized educational system, and the job is effectively complete. They got what they wanted... Worker drone men who have had their spirits crushed and most women in the work force paying taxes.

Babylon the Great is Fallen!
 

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Just like attraction isn't a choice, love isn't a choice.

Some girls are more stubborn about love, and they feel they can only love one person their whole life, so you're either the man of her dreams of she doesn't love you. Some people love more freely than others. The other night my date asked me "How many women have you loved in your life?" and I said "I don't know... five or ten" and she said "FIVE OR TEN???" as if that was a lot.

I loved my current girl the moment I looked in her eyes. Normally I try to contain my feelings when I'm around her. But if you genuinely love a girl and she has high interest in you, she will respect the fact that you are a man who got the girl he wanted.

Ultimately people want lots of people to love them, but it's important to show a person you love them more than tell them, because the words "I love you" mean all sorts of things to different people. But our goal should be to spend as much time with women we love as possible.

The most important rule to remember is that your instincts are wrong when you assume a girl will love you more if you tell her you love her. They want to know without being told. They want to work for it, and you must keep them working for it always.
 

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Great post. I'm actually a romantic at heart that wants to love a woman, but I keep that side of me repressed/hidden because there's no place for it in modern western society. The only slow dancing I get is ballroom dance class.

Be the respectful romantic patient boyfriend, and she will dump you because you weren't aggressive enough. I fell into that trap more times than I could count. You pretty much have to try to b@ng fairly quickly, or you're done. I said "b@ng," not make love on rose petals.
 

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Love has not been replaced with 'oneitits'.Oneitis is not love. It's the illusion of love. You cannot love someone without them loving you back.

Is love rarer than it used to be ? Perhaps. Is it different ? Ofcourse. Times have changed. They constantly do. And as with all change , there are positive and negative aspects to it.



You think that finding that great unspoiled woman is hard. And it is , granted. But how easy do you think it is for a woman to find a decent man ? Just like you use your average slut , so does a woman use the average AFC how she finds fit.The vast majority seems to fit the slut or AFC profile.And they are both broken , just in different ways.Women are not the plague of society , nor are men. Human stupidity is. Mediocrity is.


And how can you possibly expect it to be any different ? Even since birth you're doomed to indoctrination and mediocrity.

I don't mean any offense to anyone by this , but we live in 2013 and 90% of the population still believes there's some kind of invisible man in the sky calling the shots.


The concept of Survival of the fittest still stands. Those willing to adapt ,will. The weak however , they won't die ,not on the outside. But on the inside, they will end up hating every single second of their miserable existence , which isn't too great of an alternative.

The AFC won't make it. The 'jerk' won't make it either. The DJ will. That's why we're all here.
Great things only happen to people capable of greatness themselves.
 

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It is a shame, but I do agree that in the present culture, a man does have to keep a certain amount of guard up at all times when it comes to women.

I don't think that convincing guys that they must become emotionally numb, and never allow themselves to have any feelings, is the right thing to do either. A guy growing up and never experience having a crush on a girl? Is that a desired or natural thing? Isn't that an integral part of growing up? Even if the outcome is most often devastating to the poor guy, I'm not sure we should try to extinguish the experience altogether.

Zion said:
Love has not been replaced with 'oneitits'.Oneitis is not love. It's the illusion of love. You cannot love someone without them loving you back.
I think the emotion is the same, but the result is not. One sided love is not healthy. But in its purest form, love should not rest on the condition that you are loved back. A parent will love his child unconditionally, for example.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I've had real love. And she loved me back....
And I still love her, and she still loves me...

All the way from her seat in another man's castle; a beach side paradise...
It would never work... But it works because of that..
When we see each other - nothing else exists... Just her and I.
Sometimes she tells me, "you'll never love a woman like me."
And I tell her, "you're right but i sure will fvck them like you."

I'm the only man she hasn't crushed the heart of.
She's the only woman I've never walked out on.

Our relationship is the answer to the timeless riddle of:

What happens when a BPD woman falls in love with a sociopath.

:)

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I agree with just about everything you've said though... I don't think it's a bad thing though.... I don't believe marriage is a natural thing. Long-term bonding isn't supposed to happen because we aren't supposed to live as long as we do. I'm supposed to impregnate her and then die in a war or on a hunting expedition. I think technology is the villain here...
 

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zekko said:
I think the emotion is the same, but the result is not. One sided love is not healthy. But in its purest form, love should not rest on the condition that you are loved back. A parent will love his child unconditionally, for example.
Love has many pretended definitions.

Parental 'love' is a different form of love.It doesn't involve many of the elements that normal love does. Such as sexual relation impulses (I should hope so) , insecurities brought on by possibility of being replaced (dumped) , or pretty much any chance of being emotionally shattered.


A parent will protect and watch over his child unconditionally.But they will not love him unconditionally. Because parental love is not a 'pure' form of love.


Pure love is that which forms mutually and is reciprocated by both parties. Forms , you're not born with it.


I agree though that the emotion seems to be the same , but then that's the point I was trying to make. That's what an illusion is supposed to do. It simulates reality.That's the reason it's so unhealthy. You desperately want it to be real , it feels real , but in the end , it's not.

The most effective form of torture is placing a man's hopes and dreams 1 inch away from his arms' length. He sees his utopia in front of him.But no matter how hard he reaches for it , it's always 1 inch away.It's just close enough to keep him tormenting himself,but just far enough so he can't ever reach it. That's the illusion of love.
 

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Zion; The problem with your statements are that oneitis is also a recipe for disaster in a relationship where the women loves you in return. The caveat being that she may not keep loving you if you don't maintain it with game. Re-read Atom Smasher's post - I don't necessarily think he means the situations where a beta orbits a girl. I think it is more of those failed relationships where you loved the girl, and she walked away, though you only showed romanticism, showed love, showed thoughtfulness and caring.

I'd rep you Atom Smasher, but sadly, I can't. It's a good post. Sad, however. At one time in my life I was thankful for living in this day and age for the grace of the technology we use. Then at some times, I realize that it's come at a price. These thoughts are way too deep for a 21 y/o, I feel, but when I've heard it from older guys - repeatedly - and have not experienced anything to the contrary myself, I'd be a fool not to listen.
 

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though you only showed romanticism, showed love, showed thoughtfulness and caring.
I strongly doubt anyone will ever walk away if you do that. The problem begins to form once you do it in excess. And that's common sense.Overdo just about anything ,and the end-result will be the polar opposite of what you wanted.


I also strongly doubt that this was ever not true.
 

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Zion said:
You cannot love someone without them loving you back.
Of course you can. It's called unrequited love.

You can't be "in love" with someone without them loving you back.

zekko said:
But in its purest form, love should not rest on the condition that you are loved back.
Good point. Real love can be one-sided, but it can't be conditional. A strong and independent person can love without expecting anything in return.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Loving someone and them not loving you back, always turns into attachment and self hate.
 

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hey, this is just ONE country, homeboy, out of 180 or so. If you are too lazy/stupid/cheap to find a woman who aint a spoiled US brat, too bad.
 

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OP's post seems like the quintessential ramblings of a beta. Bang 10 fun, interesting broads in 3 months and get back to me about how you feel about love. Fact is, 19th & 20th century romantic love -- which we've all been brought up to venerate -- is all about yearning. Yearning means you're unfulfilled. If you're banging tons of chicks you don't really need or even desire love. You're satiated, you're fulfilled, you're having a good time. The times I felt best about myself and about life were times when I had 3-4 good, solid women who were putting out and cooking me breakfast. That, to me, is "love."

I suggest that anyone who really wants to become enlightened looks at the history of the romantic love that we take for granted as some sort of god-given thing. Look back to the writers of the 19th century, to the troubadours, to Ovid, etc. You'll find that the "love" which you take for granted was actually manufactured by writers and reinforced by societies in various iterations through different epochs of history.

ie, what you think are your own feelings have been mass-produced, refined for your time and place, and driven into your brain to fuel society's needs.
 

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goundra said:
hey, this is just ONE country, homebody, out of 180 or so. If you are too lazy/stupid/cheap to find a woman who aint a spoiled US brat, too bad.
homebody? :crackup: Is Goundra/white boy/twentee the Indian Race Troll?:crackup: :crackup:
 

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people are diferent people look for diferent things, what atom says is true, same for what everything is what love means, everyone will want/have/hope for something, some don't care, some think they sufered too much already to let they guard down again and let anyone get too close

@goundra still thinks only way to find a woman is leave your country and look on another to some that work others? no so much

@zarky you don't belive in settling down, possible think you suffer enough already and want just to equal things or settle a score you think you have with world, it ok do what works for you, just don't let others feel you are bitter with things, relax a little :)

@Zyon problems is most of us from experience did that showed you cared, tryed to be always there, did everything for that, we call it friendzone :), you have 20 so maybe you can have easyer things since you find this forum that young, me? not so much :p, still consider i'm in the learning phase, maybe I will wise up, but truth is most of time I don't care about woman, and had sevral wanting me but never cared to get then, but when I wanted I burned, and burned hard, other not so much.

I think the atom post is more like a vent and a reflective post to everyone think, if you agree or not is up to you really.
 

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Alvafe said:
people are diferent people look for diferent things, what atom says is true, same for what everything is what love means, everyone will want/have/hope for something, some don't care, some think they sufered too much already to let they guard down again and let anyone get too close

@goundra still thinks only way to find a woman is leave your country and look on another to some that work others? no so much

@zarky you don't belive in settling down, possible think you suffer enough already and want just to equal things or settle a score you think you have with world, it ok do what works for you, just don't let others feel you are bitter with things, relax a little :)

@Zyon problems is most of us from experience did that showed you cared, tryed to be always there, did everything for that, we call it friendzone :), you have 20 so maybe you can have easyer things since you find this forum that young, me? not so much :p, still consider i'm in the learning phase, maybe I will wise up, but truth is most of time I don't care about woman, and had sevral wanting me but never cared to get then, but when I wanted I burned, and burned hard, other not so much.

I think the atom post is more like a vent and a reflective post to everyone think, if you agree or not is up to you really.
Alvafe gets it, as does Plutoman.

I definitely should have posted this in the mature man forum instead, however. Most 20 year olds (and Zarky) aren't going to even understand the premise. For the young ones it's inexperience. Moved to MM. The kids have had their say. My bad; I should have known to put it there in the first place.
 

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I don't believe in love. Because there's no such thing as love. True love doesn't exist. Only false love and extortion. Stop believing in love and you won't get hurt.
 

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Not to sound too clinical, but if you take a step back, it's clear why what's going down is going down. There's no grand conspiracy, it's just the natural time-preference raising characteristics of a democracy.

Those feelings and subsequent life changing choices and actions called "love" are not ONLY dependent on the two people involved.

Two people who live in a small town without any social net and have to live off the sweat of their brow may easily fall head over heels in love and maintain a strong relationship till they're dead.

OTOH,

But These same two folk in a modern city replete with "rights" (real and imaginary) for everybody and everything, guaranteed health care, retirement, endless promises by politicians, advertisers, tweets and facebook updates competing for an increasingly diminishing honey-boo-boo attention span, and they won't even give each other the time of day.

That being said, there's plenty of places to find old school "love."

After all, human nature is human nature. You just need mad skills and game to cut through all the noise, establish your value, and make her chase you long enough to set the hook.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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