You know what guys?...

[ThunderMaverick]

I don't think there's anything wrong with regretting a relationship that was wonderful and had meaning. Nothing is wrong with being angry at your partner who decided to part ways because they were "feeling different".

Because I'll tell you what. If love is just saying "I feel different," if love is just saying "I'll always love you, but not in the way we were before", if love is saying "I'm having feelings for someone else" then fuck yes I regret wasting my time. My time was precious and she had it. I can't get it back. If you love me so much why can't we try? The truth is you didn't. Plain fact.

Oh who said that women make moves off emotion first and then try to rationalize later?

Men: Stay. In. Control. I don't care how hard it is. They need that strenght. Once you let them see how weak you are, they wonder when the proper time to leave you would be. Isn't wanting to change the bad parts about you enough? Isn't saying "If you love me, we'll get through this?" worth trying for??

Either she doesn't know the meaning of love or I don't. Well she'll have other people to "love"! They're pouring out of the woodwork. Let them have it. I tried, and I guess it's their turn.

We were both weak, but I wasn't weak enough to let it go and start anew with other people. After 2 weeks?!

For that, I think I'll always resent her. I can't even talk to her anymore. I don't want to.

Stay in control men.

 

[Last Man Standing]

The only women you should love is your mother, daughter, sister, and wife!!!!

Never love a hor!!!

 

[ThunderMaverick]

You said it, Dr. P! I will not invest so much of myself in someone who does not want to try to work it out. Girls drive on emotions, and her positive emotions for me are gone. It's not worth it to her anymore.

"If I don't feel the same, why should I try?" *shrugs*

Because...I might....be willing to CHANGE FOR THE BETTER! I MIGHT BE WORTH IT TO FIGHT THIS OUT, YOU SILLY GIRL!

I'll hold my tounge. I'm just so hurt right now. I'm just as mad at myself as I am at her.

 

[Fortunate_Juan]

You said it, Dr. P! I will not invest so much of myself in someone who does not want to try to work it out. Girls drive on emotions, and her positive emotions for me are gone. It's not worth it to her anymore.

"If I don't feel the same, why should I try?" *shrugs*

Because...I might....be willing to CHANGE FOR THE BETTER! I MIGHT BE WORTH IT TO FIGHT THIS OUT, YOU SILLY GIRL!

I'll hold my tounge. I'm just so hurt right now. I'm just as mad at myself as I am at her.

RIGHT ON! I love how you said "I will not" instead of "i will try not to". I think that's the key to getting better. Look at stuff through the right frame. When you say I will "try" something, if you don't get it you may subconciously screw yourself over, if you say "I will do it" you will keep at it til its done. Use this momentum to slingshot your self to DJism.

 

[Chemistry]

Bah... never change for a chick! Be prepared to compromise but love who you are

Before you get involved in anything you should have gotten to know yourself first... know what makes you who you are by looking at your strengths and weaknesses, and by changing the things that YOU are unhappy with on your own time... don't change who you are so that you can fit into a certain mould pre-designated by the chick because you're selling yourself out... and ultimately she'll be 'loving' you for someone you're not...

Trust me, you'll meet a lot of chicks who want to change some aspect of you, before moving on to another aspect until they mould you into something else... I've been with chicks who told me they got with me because of certain aspects of my personality and wanted to meet me because they heard about various things that I indulged in... shortly after we'd started casually dating they wanted to change the very aspects of me they pinpointed as to why they were intrigued by me and liked me in the first place... hilarious... NEXT!!

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Ironically Chuckles, she felt differently because I wasn't who I use to be. I became so immature and so nagging. I didn't trust her because I didn't feel like I was worth it. It's like I was stronger when she was on the outside. I let her in and she saw the worst in me, things no one has any bussiness seeing. I was weak and the punishment was the end of our relationship.

I'm changing, however, and I wanted her to be there for that. When I do become strong enough for the both of us, she'll be gone and I'll be doing great things. *shugs* Oh well...

 

[Ricky]

It is common to let your defenses down after a while when you are with a girlfriend.

I had a great relationship with a girl and I went just a tad AFC with her. I loved that girl alot and she was way into me for a while. She broke up with me a bit later when i was in a very tough situation (moving to a new town and starting a new career)

Why things changed? I never knew exactly why other than she changed her mind about moving to be with me. She could never really put it into words why she was breaking up with me. I don't even know if she understood, but looking back my minor display of wussiness sure didn't help.

I feel you bro. You'll hear all the cliches, move on quickly (which is a good idea but easier said than done) and if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. But in reality it sucks, and even more so when you have some blame but you still feel surprised and suckerpunched by it all.

2007 will be a great year for you though. I can feel it.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Yeah I really got a good roundhouse kick to the back of my while reading war and peace when she told me. I don't think she understood either. I'm still in love with her but it gets worse and worse everytime I talk to her. She said she'd call me today, and she hasn't.

It's to the point where I think she thinks I'm a nucsance and she just wants to move on with other people. That's the part that makes me mad. I use to be someone you could say anything to. Now I'm a hinderance to her happiness.

Are people really that easily replacable? I suppose it's like when you take a toy away from a baby and they start crying, then suddenly they get a lollypop and forget all about the toy they had a good time with. Hahahaha *shrugs* Guess my impact was just too negative. She did adore me I won't lie, but I just...I just really fu.cked up. Why couldn't I have learned with someone less?

I'll learn. I'm still don't regret the gesture I did for her after we broke up. (That's a very personal story. ^_^) I really do love her and wish her the best.

 

[Ricky]

The reason we get so blasted when a girl breaks up with us is that we don't expect it to happen and we are shocked how quick it appears that she gets over us.

But the thing is, she has thought about breaking up for you for a while before she finally had the balls to do it. That gives her a headstart on the healing process.

I still remember when a girl i loved broke up with me right as i moved to a new town and started a new career. She was damn nervous about breaking up with me as she stayed with me. It pretty much sucked.

It took me a long time to get over her. Basically as long as it took to find another girl i was very interested in. Which actually was about a year. I hope you recover sooner and im sure you will. Best wishes.

 

[Scrumtulescence]

The only women you should love is your mother, daughter, sister, and wife!!!!

Never love a hor!!!

Wow, truly words of wisdom.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Well I had a startling revelation today.

She never loved me.

Now I'm not saying this to make this whole thing easier. The simple fact is is that love makes things worth working out if you really want them to work out.

I asked her a day, A DAY before we broke up;

"Do you love me?"

"Yes I do"

"Are you with me because you're afraid of being alone? Is this relationship out of convenience?"

"No"

"Do you want this relationship to work out?"

"Yes"

"Ok then let's TRY to make it work"

We break up a day later!? HUH!?!? I wasn't perfect and I still take the blame for the relationship ending. But what I'm peeved at is if she LOVED me like she said she did, then she would want to try to WORK at our relationship. LOVE IS WORK! LOVE IS TRYING DESPITE A TEMPORARY FLEETING FEELING! Love is a deep sacrifice! She didn't try. She's taking comfort in her friends and forgetting all about me. And she's fine. She never loved me. How could she? She was in love with the fun of it all. It's all just fun to her. When our relationship stopped being fun she said "FU.CK IT" I'm not having fun. We don't work good together" (Mind you, we worked damn near perfect). It upsets me all of those times she said she loved me when she didn't really mean it.

She was in love with the fun of it all. Not me.

Ain't that a bitc.h? I don't even want to talk to her anymore. That's just lousy. I hope in the future, after all of the bad break ups she goes through that she learns what love really is, and that I loved her enough to make things right. I hope she regrets making such a purely emotional decision.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Hors use the word "love" to keep their current pimp in line until they want to get with their next pimp - quit being fools and loving hors!!

Hors do not love - they manipulate!!

 

[ThunderMaverick]

So so true, Dr. P.

"Let's stop loving each other after we've had are fun!" YAY!

WAS I THE ONLY ONE WHO TOOK THAT DEBACLE OF A RELATIONSHIP SERIOUSLY?

Anyone else want to share their experiences?