You have to get over the playing field

backbreaker

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You know my entire life growing up I figured that women had it just as bad as men did, I believed all the BS I heard. Then I grew up lol. I got out in the world and realized that women have it significantly easier than most men do.



I have a female friend who is 27 years old and she's about to buy her first house, she still lives at home, and her dad was crying becuase he realized his "little girl" was about to move away. My mom basically kicked me out the house when I was 18 lol. For no other reason than I was grown. Now, I have a ****ty mom lol but be that as it may, that's a common sentiment among people. "grow up" but if you are a female you have all the time in the world.


Women have bigger social circles than guys do. Women don't have to approach men. Women aren't saving money to pay for wedding rings / wedding bands. I tore a female in our group a new one because she was *****ing about her BF taking too long to buy a ring I was liek ***** you buy a ring, pay for a wedding, buy a house,, pay day to day life **** and see how far you are ahead in life.


This pissed me off. This pissed me off for quite a while. It pissed me off that females if they were anything remotely decent looking could be the scum of the earth and have dudes lined up left and right. And they will say in response to that "yeah but none of these are dudes that you would want to marry" and my response to that is that is tell that guy who busts his ass and is going years without dates lol.


For quite a while, I went on dates, i ****ed women, but I really did not like women. At all actually. I just did it, because I could and that's what you are supposed to do. But I really did not like women all that much.


I kinda think that's where a lot of people on this forum are right now, with that mindset, so I get it.


There is only one thig you can do to move on and to get better, to get rid of the negative attitude.


Accept it.


There comes a day where you just have to accept that **** isn't right, fair, just, or whatever lol. Being me, in life there are some things I've just had to accept that are not fair. I despise people who grew up with 2 loving parents in a traditional nuclear family. You give me that type of support and who knows where I am in life, and I'm already kicking ass lol. I'd strangle the **** out of my dad if I saw him today. I hate the man. I hate the fact that my wife's parents trust every white guy she ever brought home but the second i walked through the door I had to prove myself because of the color of my skin. We're well past that point now but still. Only thing that they saw, and a ot of people ever see is a black dude. As a black guy, sometimes that does suck.


But you know what, I can't change any of that ****. My dad is who he is, I am who I am. And women are who they are. Society is what it is. It's not gonna change.


Realize what you bring to the table.


Another problem that I had in my transition is thinking that becuase women were not dating me that I was a horrible person. I wanted to date hot women so bad lol I tied all my worth into not being able to date hot women. I had to break myself from doing that. I had to realize I bring some **** to the table, ,even if women were too short sighted to see it. To be fair, not very many men saw it either lol. I'm pretty intelligent, I'm a natural born leader. People follow me. I'm a very hard worker. For the **** I give my dad, I look just like him and he's a very handsome man, I'm a good looking guy.

You have to constantly remind yourself that you are worth it. Don't let these people bring you down


Realize what you CAN change

My body wants to be around 185-190. I want it to be around 165-170. If I did not ever work out that's what I would be, 185-190. I have **** metabolism. I have horrible anxiety issues. Probably the drug use. But it's bad. So I take medication for it. I'm smart enough to know that I resented women and my parents so I sought professional help, and still do, to over come that and other issues in my life. These were all very changeable things



When I first met my wife, I thought she was cute / pretty hot but she was another plate. I had hot plates. I had plates hotter than her. After about a month, and she got to know me a little and i got to know her and i went into my super high tech plate spin mode where I was basically trolling her lol, calling, disappearing and we got into a mini argument and I called her a spoiled princess lol. most girls would have said "OMG no i'm not stop being mean" lol. She looked atme and said "look I don't know what to tell you i have good parents, I'm sorry you don't, you need to get over it. I can't help where I was born / how I was raised and neither can you" and she was right. That was one of the moments when I realized I might have something here.


turn your disadvantages into advantages

I went 3 years without touching a woman from 19 to 21. instead of pouting, I bettered myself. I read (real)" books. I played the piano. I learned how to cook. I learned how to eat. I learned how to take care of myself. I learned a of of **** in those 3 years. I learned how to be single.


As a guy, you're more than likely going to have droughts. Yes women can branch swing like a mofo. she's thinking about making a switch with her BF and if she does she has every bit of 5-10 options lol. it is what it is. I don't judge a guy by how much ***** he gets. But what kills me are guys who come out of 1-2 year droughts and are no better off then when they came in. They still making the same money, they still have the same boring ass hobbies, they ain't read anything, they haven't done anything to better themselves.


The trick is just learning how the playing field is and not being bitter over it. Once you can get past that the rest is easy.
 
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Absolutely.

You are who you are, don't let all these PUA 'gurus' change that. It's a much more effective strategy to understand the basics of human interaction than to read up on an ass load of theories on how to 'pick up women.'

Just. Be. Social.

Everything else will fall into place. My cousin is 5' 6" SHORT. However, having a 2 minute conversation with him, I already knew THIS IS THE GUY I HAVE TO KNOW. He's very charismatic, social and pulls everyone into his trance. Cherry on top? He has never made less than 300k since he was 30. He's currently married to a smokin' HOT 21 year old chick, being 48 himself. You can read up on all this PUA bullsh!t, but the man I mentioned is someone who I would like to become. He understands how people work and the world works. I just want a piece of it.

So, you can get laid by mere tactics. Does it make it worth it? OR do you want to create a life for yourself? I know this guy approaching his late 30's, kids, baggage the whole shebang. He's pulling the same 'game' that I did when I was 21. He is a "mentor" for college with absolutely NOTHING going for him. Yeah, he read up on PUA and can do it well, but what the fvck does he have going for him? Can he sustain a future without anything going careerwise? No. He is a bum, leeching off whatever he can get.

My eyes opened (beyond the matrix') after I found out I was going to be a father. Before I was all about chasing tail and not worrying about the consequences. I managed to no be one and from experience, you have to look at life LONG TERM.

At the end of the day, it's how sociable you are. Don't be a jackass like these dumbfvcks wanting to make a quick PUA buck.
 
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"Enjoying the decline" is a maxim I live upon daily. If life was as fair as people would see fit, we would still be miserable because as humans, we are not designed to settle for mediocrity. The further you suppress you natural biological instincts, the more miserable you'll be.
 

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I don't hate women or anyone for all it matters. I hate how easy they have it and the monster social media has created. I detest society.
 

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women have it significantly easier than most men do.

I know I'm the oddball here, but I have never seen it that way. Women have it easier when they are trying to get the things men want, like dates and sex. But that's not what women want, or at least they want other things more, like commitment and at least the illusion of long-term potential.

It's like being a rock star who gets groupies throwing themselves at him all the time, but yet wanting only to find one nice girl and marry her.

I've always said, when it comes to the opposite sex, men seek and women sort. Those are two different tasks, and each present their own unique set of problems. It's apples and oranges to compare those two sets of problems and say that one is greater than the other. They're just different.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
women have it significantly easier than most men do.

I know I'm the oddball here, but I have never seen it that way. Women have it easier when they are trying to get the things men want, like dates and sex. But that's not what women want, or at least they want other things more, like commitment and at least the illusion of long-term potential.

It's like being a rock star who gets groupies throwing themselves at him all the time, but yet wanting only to find one nice girl and marry her.

I've always said, when it comes to the opposite sex, men seek and women sort. Those are two different tasks, and each present their own unique set of problems. It's apples and oranges to compare those two sets of problems and say that one is greater than the other. They're just different.
Women want attention yes? Well they get it easily. Same with friendships.

On the other hand, life is getting worse for men as they have to post on SS in order to understand women and go years without a lay. Think how many depressed guys there are out there. Hardly any women are depressed over the opposite sex.
 

YawataNoKami

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I read this the other day;
http://www.idealistrevolution.org/t...d-it-should-make-you-very-very-uncomfortable/

It's a typical shame fest and just an all round general bytch fest abut the porn industry by some washed up porn star who found Jesus.It amazes me that women find it 'oppressive' that when shyt hits the fan, they can make money simply because they have a vagina whereas men don't have that ability.

It also amazes that any pornstar doesn't think she will be having multiple things shoved in her orifices and be used as a general cvm rag when making a porno.

There are plenty of men out there scraping by putting their bodies in much greater physical danger than the average porn star goes through.

I mean turn up to work for a couple of hours, get a few guys to run a train through you, and then get paid a few hundred bucks...

Oh, the oppression!
 

zekko

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Bible_Belt said:
I know I'm the oddball here, but I have never seen it that way. Women have it easier when they are trying to get the things men want, like dates and sex.
If women don't want dates and sex, then what is the c0ck carousel supposed to be all about?
 

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Yes, hot women do have it easier. However, so do hot men. Unattractive women do not have it easy. Studies have shown that attractive men and women get promoted to higher positions at the workplace 5x as frequently as their less attactive counterparts. Where do you think unattractive men fall on this easy-life scale?

It's not gender specific; it's value-derived.
 

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zekko said:
If women don't want dates and sex, then what is the c0ck carousel supposed to be all about?
That's real, but every time I have seen it, it's been a phase. It's not the inherent nature of a woman to wh0re around forever. By about age 26, they start to wise up, see their future of declining looks, and snag a committed man, who by the way, typically never has any clue about her carousel days.

The later in life carousel riders are usually fresh out of an LTR or marriage, and seeking to have the experience they missed when younger. I still think those women will inevitably find it unsatisfying, even if it takes a few years.
 
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Glass half full. There are a lot of sad angry depressed miserable guys out there in crap relationships. I feel for them. I was one. There are a bunch of chubby socially oblivious mind washed men out there. I was one of them too. Again I feel for them.

I am not one of them anymore. I am in better shape than any other point in my life. My relationships are healthier. I see the world how it is I hope. I am a better and stronger man. I know this is selfish but the more sheep out there, the better it is to be the wolf.
 

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Accept it.



Realize what you bring to the table.



Realize what you CAN change



turn your disadvantages into advantages

I went 3 years without touching a woman from 19 to 21. instead of pouting, I bettered myself. I read (real)" books. I played the piano. I learned how to cook. I learned how to eat. I learned how to take care of myself. I learned a of of **** in those 3 years. I learned how to be single.


As a guy, you're more than likely going to have droughts. Yes women can branch swing like a mofo. she's thinking about making a switch with her BF and if she does she has every bit of 5-10 options lol. it is what it is. I don't judge a guy by how much ***** he gets. But what kills me are guys who come out of 1-2 year droughts and are no better off then when they came in. They still making the same money, they still have the same boring ass hobbies, they ain't read anything, they haven't done anything to better themselves.


The trick is just learning how the playing field is and not being bitter over it. Once you can get past that the rest is easy.
Thank you backbreaker.
 
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a lot of women make a LOT more than a few hundred bucks, especially if there's anal or "trains" involved and if she's got the brains needed to even half way market herself properly.
 
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