"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You Guys were right, its ended!

Enigmatron

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Hi Guys

some of you might remember me from the other day the biggest AFC of all time! and my gf went on holiday and i was mad for her to return

and the relationship was all one sided and she had all the power and i told her all my emotions and feelings early on, and i also messed up on a few dates with her by not talking because of my love for her

and you guys said that i couldnt change anything and it would not work out well, your right

last night we had a fight with words and she kept throwing stuff back in my face which i had done wrong on the previous dates and stuff, and she has really hurt me and sad bad things

anyway ive ended it with her, and im glad the pain is over, it couldnt go on the way it was and so much one sided with me doing all the chasing!

i tried some of the DJ ways as well but im not experience enough yet to get them into action! but i dont think they would have worked with that girl anyway as it was way too late

you ask how do i feel, i say numb and not sure, i did the right thing ending it, and im glad im free again and i can be myself and no more, fighting and bull sh*t

i feel abit on the rebound though to go out and get someone but i also feel a but low if you know what i mean!

so please support me guys, its what we are here for isnt it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Enigmatron
, and i also messed up on a few dates with her by not talking because of my love for her
This is one of the most important things you should understand about your failed relationship. When uncomfortable moments become too apparent and occur too frequently, you're headed for disaster.

Start having fun now. Enjoy yourself. Do many different things. Do not be afraid. It will be difficult, but at least you'll be able to see things clearer because you've failed and fallen.
 

joekerr31

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dude, you should be proud of yourself. all your AFC instincts told you to take this b*tches sh*t and you didn't.

you're taking the first steps to becoming a real man. And regardless of women, that will help you in all areas of your life.

dude, even mike tyson got knocked on his ass. it happens to everyone.

you made the right move and you should feel great about that. Chics are masters at messing with men's emotions and you were able to get yourself loose from her hooks - bravo!

move on, keep growing stronger, and the things you want will come to you in life.

J
 

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People are here to help you help yourself...

Stop grovelling like a wounded bull and start reading the DJ bible... otherwise read it again...

You won't improve if all you are after is support, which is totally gay and for chicks only...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by MacDiddy


You won't improve if all you are after is support, which is totally gay and for chicks only...
Saying totally gay is totally gay.
 

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Welcome to have you here Enigmatron. Don't mind all of the negative comments and flames. We are here to help you get your ass in gear!! Read the DJ bible ASAP and talk to as many girls as you can...this will lessen the effects of a break-up, if you're feeling any.

Goodluck.

AA
 

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Ive Failed me and all you guys!

ive taken her back, and we are starting off as friends and see where we go from there!!!

Im a Total AFC Looser!:eek:
 

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Originally posted by Enigmatron
Ive Failed me and all you guys!

ive taken her back, and we are starting off as friends and see where we go from there!!!

Im a Total AFC Looser!:eek:
Yeah, pretty much.

It's going to happen all over again. Seriously, man. You need to ball up and it will be tough to do that in the midst of extreme infatuation. You should have held off for at least a few weeks to build up your control.

But good luck anyway, I guess...


~Sloopy


P.S. This is my 100th post. That's sort of neat.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Da Realist

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Man, shake her off and get on with your life. Don't talk to her or see her; just leave her alone and get yourself together.
 

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your so right guys, also she is playing games with me with my friend, i dont know what they are up to but she is winding me up
 

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Originally posted by Enigmatron
your so right guys, also she is playing games with me with my friend, i dont know what they are up to but she is winding me up
Call her up right now and say

"I've been thinking about this thing I just don't think it's working out."

When she asks why, tell her:

"I just need to date someone who knows how to treat a man."

Then tell her you have to go and hang up. She'll probably come crawling back to you. Don't give in for a while. Make her give in to your demands. Then if you get back to her and she does the sh*t again, get rid of her and never look back.

Finish it.

~Sloopy
 

frivolousz21

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and IM a women?

haha!

dude..you gotta be Fycking kidding me?


dont take her back..period..

only LTR a women who gives you as much or more than u give her.
 

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Originally posted by Enigmatron
Im a Total AFC Looser!:eek:
1) Pick up phone
2) Give her a call
3) Tell her to go and fvck herself

She's destroying you. Go out and sarge - when you're on the rebound you don't care about rejection.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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