"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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You guys were right, I flopped big time

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Rememeber my thread a few weeks back about that girl who gave me her number without even asking for it?

I'll recap --

I called her and asked if she'd be around on the weekend. She said yeah. Few days later I brought up her ex and started acting like a jerk (I was drunk). Then the next day apologized. I asked her if she wanted to get together for drinks sometime, she said "we'll see." Then she told me her schedule. I waited 2 weeks to call. Actually, I think I might have called her sometime in between. Then tonight I called her twice, no answer both times. Not only do I think this isn't going anywhere... I'm also starting to think I'm looking like an idiot.

Might as well call her back tomorrow and see what the hell's going on. It's already over with, right? Already made an ass out of myself blowing up her phone.

This sucks.

ya know, yeah I will call her. I WILL get to the bottom of this. this is BS. gives me her number then flakes. damn wh0re
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I never read your original thread, but blowing a girls phone up is never a good idea. Ever see the movie Swingers? Constantly calling a girl reeks of desperation. Call her once and if she doesn't answer leave a message (if you really care, if not then don't even leave a message). After that it's up to her to get back to you. If she cares she'll meet you halfway, if she doesn't just forget about her she was a waste of time anyway


EDIT: D@MN ten post rule!!!
 

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Do you think I made a mistake never leaving a message all those times?
 

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Yep, you should have.

I read the original thread, I reckon you should've just said 'hey soz about the other night I'm not usually like that, throw us a txt or call sometime. CU'
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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touge said:
Yep, you should have.

I read the original thread, I reckon you should've just said 'hey soz about the other night I'm not usually like that, throw us a txt or call sometime. CU'
LOL... "us"? as in the whole DJ community?
 

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wow, man...

You don't EVER call someone you don't know very well twice in one night. EVER. Even if it's a guy friend you just met. It looks desperate, and lord knows what the poor girl is thinking.

Next her, and cut down on the bitter attitude for god's sake...you're depressing me.
 

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Right. So I already look like a desperate idiot. Might as well try again tomorrow and hope she answers.
 

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Oh really? So because I want to get in touch with this chick now I'm stalking. Some of you guys need to give some quality feedback instead of hating all the time.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Let's see...

You asked if she'd be around on the weekend. That's 1 call. You called her a few days later (you couldn't even wait until the weekend). That's 2 calls. The next day you apologized. That's 3 calls. Then you said you might have called in between. We're at 4 calls. You called her twice tonight. 6 calls now.

And you're planning on trying again tomorrow?

What's scary is that you don't see anything wrong with this situation.

You're not playing with a full deck dude.
 

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my mistake was probably waiting 2 weeks after I apologized. I'm guessing she lost interest. and yeah I called twice tonight and she never got back to me. Maybe she was busy or couldn't get to her phone for some reason.
 

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Dude, she hates you.

Stop calling her, you're making a fool of yourself.

Next time, don't get drunk and drunk-dial chicks you want to bang.
 

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I don't get it. I drunk dialed. wow big deal. Now she doesn't want to go out with me? wtf

I didn't even ask for her number. She just GAVE it to me. she used to smile at me all the time. now I don't see her anymore.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Snowman23 said:
I don't get it. I drunk dialed. wow big deal. Now she doesn't want to go out with me? wtf

I didn't even ask for her number. She just GAVE it to me. she used to smile at me all the time. now I don't see her anymore.
Drunk = Loss of control

Lack of Control = Unattractive

Nobody likes to get drunk dialed.

She might not hate you, but unless she's a hardcore drinker (which from your posts i doubt) she's finding you to be more and more of a desperate fool.

Forget about it, put the tequila down, and move on. There's plenty of other fish in the sea, but that doesn't mean you need to drink like one.
 

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Snowman23 said:
I called her and asked if she'd be around on the weekend. She said yeah. Few days later I brought up her ex and started acting like a jerk (I was drunk).

Then the next day apologized. I asked her if she wanted to get together for drinks sometime, she said "we'll see."

Then she told me her schedule. I waited 2 weeks to call. Actually, I think I might have called her sometime in between. Then tonight I called her twice, no answer both times. Not only do I think this isn't going anywhere... I'm also starting to think I'm looking like an idiot.

Might as well call her back tomorrow and see what the hell's going on. It's already over with, right? Already made an ass out of myself blowing up her phone.

This sucks.

ya know, yeah I will call her. I WILL get to the bottom of this. this is BS. gives me her number then flakes. damn wh0re

She gave you her number, went on one date with you but lost interest. Now you are really angry, have called her 4-5 times with no response, are calling her names and want to call her again to confront her and scream at her because she is not allowed to change her mind.

What would you do if she went on 2 dates with you and then changed her mind? Rape her?
 

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We haven't gone on any dates. I haven't seen her since she gave me her number.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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