"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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so explain some of your techniques for getting physical with a girl.

SITUATION #1: after your first date (dinner) you bring a chick back to your place. she's sitting on the other side of the livingroom, you're on the couch. the conversation's going well but you want to get her next to you and heat things up a bit. what now?

SITUATION #2: you're doing homework with a girl you've known for awhile. although you know that she finds you attractive, and she made out with you on one occasion, you've never pursued it and seem to be settled into the friend zone. now you're cuddled up and you want to go for the kiss again. what's a smooth way to initiate?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I would absolutely love some responses for these two situations as well, as escalating seems to be one of my primary problems.
 

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bengboy said:
so explain some of your techniques for getting physical with a girl.

SITUATION #1: after your first date (dinner) you bring a chick back to your place. she's sitting on the other side of the livingroom, you're on the couch. the conversation's going well but you want to get her next to you and heat things up a bit. what now?
I'd kino, tease, and then find the right moment to kiss.

SITUATION #2: you're doing homework with a girl you've known for awhile. although you know that she finds you attractive, and she made out with you on one occasion, you've never pursued it and seem to be settled into the friend zone. now you're cuddled up and you want to go for the kiss again. what's a smooth way to initiate?
I'd kino, tease, and then find the right moment to kiss.
 

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that's not specific enough. how do you get her close enough to kino if she's sitting on the other side of the room? and if you invite her to come sit on the couch and she says "no thanks I'm fine", how do you proceed?
 

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You just kiss them man. Put your hand at the back of her head, grab her hair lightly, and kiss her.

I've read a lot of techniques and patterns on 'making the first move' and they're all BS in my opinion. Th trick is to know when she's into you and know when she's gonna reciprocate.

I'd say with the last 30 or so girls I made out with I dodn't say anything 'smooth' beforehand, I just did it. And I didn't et rejected once, seriously.

Girls like confidence and boldness. Thats all you need when it comes to making a move.

PS: On the first one specifically, I would just tell her to sit next to me. If she's into you (which she probably is considering she went out with you) she will comply.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SITUATION #1: after your first date (dinner) you bring a chick back to your place. she's sitting on the other side of the livingroom, you're on the couch. the conversation's going well but you want to get her next to you and heat things up a bit. what now?
Get up go to the washroom, when you come out set next to her. If she get's up and walks to the washroom when she is walking back hopefully by you to sit across the room, grab her by the hand and pull her down or while you have her hand get up and start making out with her.

SITUATION #2: you're doing homework with a girl you've known for awhile. although you know that she finds you attractive, and she made out with you on one occasion, you've never pursued it and seem to be settled into the friend zone. now you're cuddled up and you want to go for the kiss again. what's a smooth way to initiate?
Heavy Eye contact, either she will eye contact back which is queue or she will ask why are you looking at me like that? Be like I just remembered us making out before your lips were so soft...
 

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bengboy said:
so explain some of your techniques for getting physical with a girl.

SITUATION #1: after your first date (dinner) you bring a chick back to your place. she's sitting on the other side of the livingroom, you're on the couch. the conversation's going well but you want to get her next to you and heat things up a bit. what now?

SITUATION #2: you're doing homework with a girl you've known for awhile. although you know that she finds you attractive, and she made out with you on one occasion, you've never pursued it and seem to be settled into the friend zone. now you're cuddled up and you want to go for the kiss again. what's a smooth way to initiate?
If you are smooth player you wouldn't allow yourself to be in those situations to begin with, therefore its irrelevent what you do now because you already failed in your overall success rate in doing something else much earlier. Those situations you described are 2 predicaments a non smooth player would find himself in.

Situation#1: You don't take a chick for dinner on the first date. You take her out for drinks, its much more fun and alot lighter on the wallet. By that time she should have already warmed up to you with your charming and funny personality and your kino. Therefore if you decide to take her home with you for a "movie" she should already be comfortable being close near you and the distance shouldn't be an issue. If there was an issue at the bar already with kino and she was uncomfortable with you then you don't bring her home but you call it a day and NEXT her ass because she wasn't digging you.

Situation#2: You don't settle for a friendzone and you do pursue the girl after you made up with her. If you don't then you snooze and lose. Trying to initiate something long after that is a slippery slope that has little or any success. Too much energy is going be wasted on this one as opposed of sarging other girls who have not put you in the friendzone.
 
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bengboy said:
so explain some of your techniques for getting physical with a girl.

SITUATION #1: after your first date (dinner) you bring a chick back to your place. she's sitting on the other side of the livingroom, you're on the couch. the conversation's going well but you want to get her next to you and heat things up a bit. what now?

Tell her to come sit next to you and kiss her. Then take her to the room and give her a 3 hour special. No 2 pump chump.

Same goes for situation #2.

Man, I'm getting good.
 

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bengboy said:
that's not specific enough. how do you get her close enough to kino if she's sitting on the other side of the room? and if you invite her to come sit on the couch and she says "no thanks I'm fine", how do you proceed?
If she says no thanks either she is not attratcted to you or she is a very shy girl with low confidence.

I dunno this might not be too DJ but i would probobly ask her to play a game with me that would get us closer together. Tell her i want to play paper scissor rock or the game where you try to hit the hand something along those lines i know there is better. If she still refuses than i think i would give up on that girl. If she accepts thats a good chance to kino and eventually go for the kiss. If she rejects you could always say something along the line *smiling sarcasticly say* "i thought we agreed if i win i would get a kiss" or if she wins say "i am so proud of you i thought i would give reward you with this".

After saying that *knowing me* i would probobly get impatient and say i am getting tired do you want me to drive you home.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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First one's easy. There's a ton of ways to romance a girl into bed from your home court. I usually put on some music, offer up a drink and motion for her to sit on the sofa with me. Steer the conversation to excitment and conquer.
That's just one way but there are others.

Second one ehhhh I'm not really in school so much and i was pretty big on doing homework alone when i was. I imagine you could keep looking at her and when she ask what you're saying at keep saying nothing for a while then when she's getting agrivated say something in a calm manner "You're eyes are just so beautiful...it's very difficult for me to concentrate when we're this close" or something else canned like that. Why you'd need an opportunity like that to score in school eludes me though. There's tons up tons of time to hook up in school since you have not real obligations.
 
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