So on Monday I was staring into space & i was staring at the trash can & i see the girl i liked looking at me later I was staring at the wall & when i look over she was Leaning her Head Against her Hand While looking at me & smiling. Then today In class i heard her telling one of her friend " i don't know why he (me) looks at me
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
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You guys know why she did this?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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She was being friendly and letting you know she might be responsive to you.
By saying what she did she was checking your SMV. She let you hear it though so she was giving you another big clue that she had noticed you.
She thinks that she was giving you some enormous signals.
Are there any other signals like partially turning her chair towards you, being a little louder around you, (ignore playing with hair, girls do this all the time), accidentally bumping into you, sitting near you when she doesn't need to, touching you for any reason, more eye contact than normal...
Etc etc..
If you catch her eye again and she smiles and doesn't avoid eye contact then go for it.
Alternatively she thinks you are a spazz and wants to know if she needs to get protection... LOL. I would go with the first one though.
By saying what she did she was checking your SMV. She let you hear it though so she was giving you another big clue that she had noticed you.
She thinks that she was giving you some enormous signals.
Are there any other signals like partially turning her chair towards you, being a little louder around you, (ignore playing with hair, girls do this all the time), accidentally bumping into you, sitting near you when she doesn't need to, touching you for any reason, more eye contact than normal...
Etc etc..
If you catch her eye again and she smiles and doesn't avoid eye contact then go for it.
Alternatively she thinks you are a spazz and wants to know if she needs to get protection... LOL. I would go with the first one though.
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Ask her out. You will get your answer. Stop analyizing. Just do it. Read up on kino if you get the date. You need to be assertive. You need to get to a point where you are a machine. You see a woman you are interested in and you don't think, you just ask her out. You don't care about the outcome.
You like her. That is all you need to approach. However, you say she looks at you and smiles. So, you have an invitation to approach. You are the man and have to initiate. Get her number, get coffee, study together or something. Now, if she thinks you are looking at her but don't subsequently initiate she will probably end up thinking you lack confidence.
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This, if you like her, approach her. But if you like her, and she's IOIng you, you HAVE TO approach her. Let us know how it goes and ask any question!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
But i dont know then the other day I heard her saying 'I don't know why she looks at me'
so idk man
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The only way to get your answer is to ask her on a date. You're risking literally nothing if she says no. If she says yes, there ya go, she's interested and you have yourself a date. If she says no, well, did you really lose anything? Nada.
Ask her out buddy
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What I do is that I tell them it's not polite to stare and from now on I'm charging her 25 cents for each look and a dollar for each stare.
They eat that sh!t up like candy.
They eat that sh!t up like candy.
When I was your age there was a girl I was crazy into......but I thought "no way is she into me..." .....so I did nothing. And nothing fvcking
happened.
About a year later, I was with another girl who was in this girls' class. She let slip that she was into me. Now I was kicked into action......
"It can't be.....she's into me" fvcking waiting on confirmation. Did I get some balls? Yes. Thank you Dell boy....
"who dares wins"....I approached........
Result?
five years together with a girl that I mistakenly thought was "too good for me".
I've never made that mistake since.
Think not. ACT. For the world rewards big balls.
lol yeah but i havent seen this girl since high school so today when i was hanging out with my friends at the mall i guess she was there with her boyfriend and i guess she saw and she might said somthing and that made him looked over at me. because when i turn around i saw a guy looking at me. but the thing is i didnt see her so idk if she was hiding from me or something?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.