Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
he said it allOriginally posted by Disconnect
It's not acne. It's all in your head. If you think your acne affects the way girls react to you, then you'll act that way, and when rejected, blame it on your looks. I know a guy who's got terrible acne, and isn't generally good looking, never tans, never hits the gym, is 19, still in hs, doesn't drive, but pulls chicks left and right.
Why? Because he doesn't give a **** about his acne, and doesn't let it **** on his confidence.
Game is what matters. Looks matter too, but mild acne changes nothing in the end. Most people had/have mild acne at one point in their lives. Didn't stop them, did it?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Well i beat you here you see sire,i'm a 21 year old virgin with mild acne and MASSIVE confidence and EGO and still don't get sex.Originally posted by Jake13
I am a 20 year old virgin and EVEN I AM DISGUSTED BY WHAT I SEE GOING ON HERE!
Stop. Feeling. Sorry. For. Yourselves. And. Do. Something. To. Change.
Yes, acne sucks.. mild acne? Who gives a ****? Doesn't matter though. Get over it and focus on something else.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.