"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Weezy

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Just wanted to give a big mother fvcking thanks to everyone on th1s site.

I came here with a kicked in heart, oneitis and thoughts of winning my Ex back by asking to marry her (she'd been hinting at it for a while before the break).

I struggled bad, thought about the b1tch every day all day, nothing made me happy, thought of breaking NC on a daily basis... but all the posts and threads and props on here made me stick to my guns.... Now I'm happy has can be, stoked on my life. Not dependent on anyone, building up my company wealth and my social circle.

Had I not read all the sh1t on here I would have caved, been kickin it with an attention ***** with no personality and only a 7 on the looks scale.

This site is sick.. Oneits is a disease that anyone with some balls and a support network like this can beat, and when you get to the other side, with your pride in tack, sh1t feels great.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Veridin

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Glad to hear you learned to tackle oneitis!

People might say that the tips you find here are no-brainers that anyone could think of. Sure, you can think of them on your own, but it isn't certain that you will remember them. How to deal with oneitis for example; how many of us haven't done foolish things, like calling the girl several times when she never calls back, and trying to come up with favors to do for her? You could think of not doing that on your own. And still people do it. The good thing with a forum like this one is that it emphasizes what would otherwise pass fleetingly through your mind, and makes sure that you stick to the plan.

Also, it always helps to learn that other people have been in similar situations.
 

jnice48146

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I hear ya, man. I just went NC yesterday, and when I get the urge to call/ text her, or reply to her texts, it helps to get on here and read the posts of other guys that got through it, and read some of the articles to try and improve my game. Just the act of staying busy reading something helps.
 

K2000kidd

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realize that oneitis is merely a flood of chemicals in the brain
if pizza gave you that same chemical reaction you'd be 300lbs

Also look up something called lemerence which is basically when
we overanalyze her body language/interactions and eventually mold
her into "the one" without ANY real action on her part whatsoever
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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