"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You guys ever flake on purpose?

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Curious if you guys ever flake out on a chick on purpose, not in retaliation to being flaked on, but when wanting to test interest, and when detecting unenthusiasm and what not.

Did this with a chick today that has been making it a pain to make plans with, being unresponsive and what not. And funnily noticed an instant attitude change when I broke off our plans for tonight.

So you guys ever do this? Good tactic once in a while?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I rarely flake, because I tend to actually want to see the women that I make dates with.

Flip side of that coin is that I never make dates with women who flake or otherwise show flaky behavior.

I think in my entire life, only two or three girls have ever flaked on me. If a girl wants to go out, she'll go out.
 
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No... Rather than push/pull, I pull back on purpose. I won't flake on a date, but might not always agree to one, cut it short, or push it back. It has the same effect, but doesn't make you look undependable or flakey. It does make you look busy and with other priorities, though that's just an added bonus (you should be these things already).
 
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Well in this case here I didn't cut things off and leave them closed like some flakes will do. I told her some things came up that I had to take care of and that we will do it another day, at least leaving it open ended.

I like her physically, but her personality is just sucking with me, and even though she has been consistently seeing me, I'm still on the fence with her interest level. I don't think it's disinterest but she strikes me as one of those ones with issues and is not a happy person.

I don't want to be around an unhappy chick and am hoping that if I entice her to chase me she'll show some more enthusiasm around me. I'm at the point where I'm tired of trying with her and am gonna let her come to me. If she doesn't oh well.

In the mean time I'll focus on others and keep busy with other stuff I got going on.
 
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i dont know if you would call it a flake..

met this chick, we liked the same music, told her i would take out for her bday ill take her to a green day concert. she didnt return my calls, or texts for a month. her bday rolls around and she calls numerous times and leaves texts messages to see if im still taking her to the concert.

didnt answer her calls or her texts. f*ck this b*tch.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PokerStar said:
i dont know if you would call it a flake..

met this chick, we liked the same music, told her i would take out for her bday ill take her to a green day concert. she didnt return my calls, or texts for a month. her bday rolls around and she calls numerous times and leaves texts messages to see if im still taking her to the concert.

didnt answer her calls or her texts. f*ck this b*tch.
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Wow a month eh? Strong IL!

Can't believe she was still hitting you up for the concert after that!
 
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I have thought about flaking out on a few plates that were not pulling their weight. I have done the whole "sorry I can't do tonight as something has come, hopefully next time shouldn't be a problem".

One girl who suddenly stopped talking to me a few months back and went into a RL with some dude, dropped me a FB message saying "long time" 2 days ago. Am I going to reply? Am I fvck - straight to the trash can!
 
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I'll flake if I don't have that much interest in meeting the girl and there's something else I'd rather do that day/evening. That's about it
 
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I flaked once. After the scotch wore off, I realized she was a 5 rather than an 8. I demoted her after I got my eyesight back and noticed her teeth. She could eat corn on the cobb through a picket fence.

Nasty.
 
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5string said:
I flaked once. After the scotch wore off, I realized she was a 5 rather than an 8. I demoted her after I got my eyesight back and noticed her teeth. She could eat corn on the cobb through a picket fence.

Nasty.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Well I guess this worked.

She texted me this afternoon asking how I was doing. Told her fine, asked how she was. Then asked what her plans were for this weekend, she said work til Sunday, no plans yet, then asked if I had any. Said that's cool, going out with a friend tomorrow, then getting another tattoo Friday. Held off and like 30 mins later she initiated plans with me and all of a sudden seems more enthusiastic to see me. My main goal for this was to see if the interest level was really there cause I don't want to waste any time with someone where it's not.
 
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