Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Lies!!! online dating doesn't get you laid. 90% of the post on this site is about LAMES doing online dating and can't get LAID. " where did I go wrong?" is their main line. You went wrong doing online dating. You went wrong thinking your really dating this woman cause you sent her an email online. You went wrong thinking you have REAL GAME cause you know how to email with smiley faces. You went wrong not hitting THE REAL WORLD to learn GAME. I'm teach guys out here to be REAL MEN!!! The world is in dire need of REAL MEN!! Real men are dinosaurs out here and are about to become extinct!!!jurry said:
No learn how to keep a straight FACE. That doesn't mean looking angry that has nothing to do with it. You probably smile too much which does come off as SWEET. Don't take my word for it take hers. You probably are SWEET. With all that laughing and joking you do!!!FortunateSon said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's right!! I 100% cosign this message!!!Mauser96 said:
That comes across as boring though! I enjoy a good laugh and a joke, what's wrong with that? I don't associate smiling, laughing and clowing about as being sweet.I_was_born_a_PIMP said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Everyone on this site is at varying levels in their dealings with women. We all have one thing in common and that is we are all here to either help others learn, learn more ourselves, or combination of both (which is probably most of us). It is for sure me.I_was_born_a_PIMP said:
If your doing so well, why waste your time here? No one is always stable or happy all the time.I_was_born_a_PIMP said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
