Ive never really looked at this forum, but I'm wondering if my perception is right that you guys (late 20's and older) are way more into getting a "quality woman" instead of trying to get laid as much as possible. Am I right? or did the last thread I read about quality women influence me too much?
This might sound silly (especially on the regular DJ forum), but I've started to wonder if this whole "DJ" stuff is taking it too far, and is mostly helpful if you want to get laid as much as possible, but potentially dangerous if you're looking to attract girlfriend material, etc..
I mean sure, a lot of those mental games work on most women, but maybe this only attracts silly hoes, you'd never want to be in a relationship with, anyway?
So anyway, what I'm really wondering is this:
Are a lot of the things that are frowned upon in the regular forum of this site - like being nice to a woman or let alone romantical and charming
- maybe actually good things if you're looking to meet quality women instead of having hot, but superficial/dumb chicks chase you?
EDIT/EXAMPLE:
I remember this guy who was well..a bit of a romantical wuss and he got with a good-looking girl back in high school (definitely better looking than him). In other words an "AFC". I used to be with a girl at the time, who knew him and she said that couple wouldnt last long, because he's too much of a [insert german word for a guy who spends too much time with his girl].
Now 5 years later that guy is still with this girl...and I don't have much to do with that chick from back then anymore, and am glad about it, because she's a bit messed in her head..not what I'd consider girlfriend material.....that really makes me think if the whole DJ thing is mostly helpful with attracting flings and ONS's but harmful when it comes to relationships.
I'm not trying to say "just be yourself", because being a "Man" and "confident" instead of a Wuss is probably always an advantage (just as much a turn on for a woman as a feminine woman is for us guys, I assume)...but I'm wondering if some of the ideas that are promoted on the regular forum here on SS might actually be harmful with women/only help with attracting women that aren't really girlfriend material (because you have to play too many mind games with them and wont be able to connect with them emotionally).
The few things I've learned about women are "Be A Man", "Be Confident", "Don't Act like a Friend", and that women don't like a man who's lazy (not necessarily because she's a gold digger (not worth going for), but because women are pretty turned on by "ambition" and a guy who has "goals")...that kind of stuff has become part of my personality (having gone from a teenager to a man). But most of the other stuff I read on that regular forum makes me wonder "if I have to play such mind games to keep her interested, isn't it doomed to fail in the first place?"
This might sound silly (especially on the regular DJ forum), but I've started to wonder if this whole "DJ" stuff is taking it too far, and is mostly helpful if you want to get laid as much as possible, but potentially dangerous if you're looking to attract girlfriend material, etc..
I mean sure, a lot of those mental games work on most women, but maybe this only attracts silly hoes, you'd never want to be in a relationship with, anyway?
So anyway, what I'm really wondering is this:
Are a lot of the things that are frowned upon in the regular forum of this site - like being nice to a woman or let alone romantical and charming
- maybe actually good things if you're looking to meet quality women instead of having hot, but superficial/dumb chicks chase you?EDIT/EXAMPLE:
I remember this guy who was well..a bit of a romantical wuss and he got with a good-looking girl back in high school (definitely better looking than him). In other words an "AFC". I used to be with a girl at the time, who knew him and she said that couple wouldnt last long, because he's too much of a [insert german word for a guy who spends too much time with his girl].
Now 5 years later that guy is still with this girl...and I don't have much to do with that chick from back then anymore, and am glad about it, because she's a bit messed in her head..not what I'd consider girlfriend material.....that really makes me think if the whole DJ thing is mostly helpful with attracting flings and ONS's but harmful when it comes to relationships.
I'm not trying to say "just be yourself", because being a "Man" and "confident" instead of a Wuss is probably always an advantage (just as much a turn on for a woman as a feminine woman is for us guys, I assume)...but I'm wondering if some of the ideas that are promoted on the regular forum here on SS might actually be harmful with women/only help with attracting women that aren't really girlfriend material (because you have to play too many mind games with them and wont be able to connect with them emotionally).
The few things I've learned about women are "Be A Man", "Be Confident", "Don't Act like a Friend", and that women don't like a man who's lazy (not necessarily because she's a gold digger (not worth going for), but because women are pretty turned on by "ambition" and a guy who has "goals")...that kind of stuff has become part of my personality (having gone from a teenager to a man). But most of the other stuff I read on that regular forum makes me wonder "if I have to play such mind games to keep her interested, isn't it doomed to fail in the first place?"