"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You got the wrong idea!

HolyG

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Basically what happened is a chick called me out for flirting with her. When I may have been slightly, my real intent was just to mess with her. Im kind of a playful, goofy person (no Don Juan).

What I want is something i can tell her next time I see her. You know those kind of responses that turn things around on her, make her look dumb, as if she might have lost a friend. I've heard lots of snappy ones, i just can't remember any...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Macca

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Just be polite and reserved - that's all it needs.
 

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You need to be on the ball...

... and hit em with a good come back immediately for maximum effect. Read some David DeAngelo C&F stuff (I don't think it is the end all be all of seduction as he likes to suggest but its great for situations like what you just mentioned).

"Whoa! Slow down girl, I'm not that easy."

"Oh, the old role reversal trick eh?"

"A classic case of Freudian transference there."

Or you can play it a bit tougher too (especially if you actually want the girl for a GF)

I was once called out for flirting by a girl. She said, "will you stop flirting with me!"

I apologised, stood up and went and flirted with another girl and didn't talk to her for a few weeks. She never gave me grief for being flirtatious again.

Okay, that's some tips on handling the flirting **** test on the spot. As for next time you see her...

Be careful to hide the fact you've been trying to figure out how to turn it about on her.

Now some ideas.

I would suggest playing it cool.

When it is appropriate cut off something you were about to say and say "Oh, I can't say that, you'll read into it and think I like you."

If you do play it cool its likely that she'll try to entice you to flirt with her again (even if she's not interested- although she probably is- she's a chick and will want the ego boost) say "whoa whoa, not flirting remember. I thought I told you last time!"

Let me finish by saying that flirting is like the tango... don't let a chick try to tell you that you were doing it alone.
 
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