You ever feel like a ****? Help.

[Dan08]

Long story short basically tried to end it with a girl, she says she doesn't want to lose me and proceeds to explain her behaviour for the past 3 weeks was down to family stuff.

The family stuff is major, we're talking affairs etc and this girl has coped really well with it by all accounts, I mean I had no idea!

And there's me now feeling like a **** for saying I can't be friends with her and yet by the end of it all she's saying she'll give me space but doesn't want me to cut her out of my life. I just feel like crap and don't know what to do. Help.

 

[Sociowhat?]

If you want to end it, end it. Anytime a relationship ends and the feeling is not mutual the two major feelings are sadness, and "man, do I feel bad for doing this."

Family issues or not, you seem to have hit your exit with this person, don't let there personal issues and feelings drag you down to there level. Just walk away, and hit that mini reset button that sometimes we're blessed enough to get a chance to push.

 

[apprenticedj]

Danny Boy it's sounds like a breather is needed. If you like her and her issues were legit then I say cut her some slack. We're quick to drop the ax on women here that we sometimes lose sight of the human side to the game. Things happen, family issues, work problems, finances etc, we can't just saw "screw it" everytime things don't work out 100% to our liking. Nothing is set in stone and you gotta adapt. Now don't beat yourself up, you had no idea about the issues so you can't blame yourself for your reaction.

 

[Dan08]

Danny Boy it's sounds like a breather is needed. If you like her and her issues were legit then I say cut her some slack. We're quick to drop the ax on women here that we sometimes lose sight of the human side to the game. Things happen, family issues, work problems, finances etc, we can't just saw "screw it" every time things don't work out 100% to our liking. Nothing is set in stone and you gotta adapt. Now don't beat yourself up, you had no idea about the issues so you can't blame yourself for your reaction.

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to apprenticedj again.

Thank you, on the one hand the I feel like it was the right thing to push based on the teachings of SS etc but on the other I'm only human and I want her to be ok either with me or without me regardless.

I think you're correct, I've got to come to terms with the situation, realise it was just bad timing on my part and as you say, take a breather and come back to it after a period of NC. Fresh and more able to look at the situation.