"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You don't need to do everything right

mr.uk

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When I go out and I am chatting to a girl, my brain takes the view that everything that I do must create attraction...which is actually far from the reality. You must do SOME things that are attractive, but if you do or say something AFC there is no worry about the girl not liking you if you have done something right already. The point here is take the pressure off of yourself and relax...rely on your spontaneous on the spot ability because IT IS GOOD ENOUGH.

My sister (16) who is very pretty is going back out with her ex BF who has been making himself available all the time...texting her an if she doesnt text back he texts again to see whats wrong...if she wants him over here he is here within an hour yet she is still going back out with him...she has alot of lads after her aswell she is a very pretty girl (what can you expect she carries my DNA :D)

I learn from this that this guy is doing something right but not everything so the moral is to relax and dont worry about what you say or your behaviour because just cos you did some things wrong..you could still be in there!!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Al Moh.

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Yeah, you're totally right, prefect is boring! If you were the perfect Don Juan, there would be nothing special about you, that makes you human.

And if you worry too much, you tend to be nervous and mess up things even more.
 
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