"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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A girl who was extremely in to me (it was so obvious everyone could tell :p) once asked me "you don't have a girlfriend?!" Another girl's asked me that question again. And then...

This chick whom I met in an overseas conference came back to Taiwan today, and sms-ed me along with two other people she knew.
Though I wasn't jumping up and down about meeting her, I avoided the AFC thing anyway and kept the phone calling at a minimum...she stays in another city and she told me she'd be busy most of the day... so she told me to visit any day But saturday, but who the hell cares, my mom happened to be going to the same city she was living in on saturday so I took the opportunity to go...
met the girl today, had some great conversations, busted her balls once in a while though it never got sexy enough...

And then before I was about to leave, right in the middle of a conversation... she asked the same question:
"You don't have a girlfriend?"
It wasn't said in a tone that said "Ah poor you..." but it obviously sounded something like "(wow, youre so cool, and i'm surprised that)You don't have a girlfriend?!?!"

I gave an indifferent "no" and kept talking.

I've definately learned a lot from this site and have come to be a lot more attractive and everything, but chicks still confuse the hell out of me sometimes and i wanna hear what you guys have to say about this. Checked around on the forum for this topic and came up empty--i thought there'd be plenty of people with this experience?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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As you said it's one of two things, either she's saying it in a patronizing way like the typical, 'Awwww you don't have a gf that's such a shame you deserve one' (but funnily enough the girl won't go out with him) or 'Wow you're actually single? That's surprising, I am interested ...'. The type of interactions you have and her voice tone says it all though.

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"You don't have a girlfriend?"


Geeze! I just met you, I barely know you, we weren't even intimate, AND you want to be my girlfriend!!!!! I hope you are not one of those stalker types....

*****blah*****

You know I'm not one of those guys. I like to first see if woman are qualified to be with me.







They are asking this because they like you and want to be your girlfriend. At the same time it's a sh!t test.. If you're too good to be true, you'd say NO, or some silly thing like that.. These silly things are intellectual and do not provoke any emotion within her.. Speak to her emotions, tell her, yea I'm real, and yea you can have me, but you gotta work for it.. Like above..
 
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after the second time once you've confirmed her interest the first time you should've followed up with:

her: you don't have a gf?
you: what? you want to be my gf?

IF:

her: no...
you: yeah we're much better off as friends

IF:

her: yeah
you: damn I gotta put you on the waitlist. ;) but in the meantime while you're waiting, gimme ur #, meet me at 7, etc. blah blah
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Her: "You don't have a girlfriend?"
Me: "Nope, I got a wonderful boyfriend and he told me to go meet someone new."

or

Me: "I got three right now, but I am looking for a fourth."
(if said in the correct way, then it works. I know, I have used it.)

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comic_relief said:
Me: "I got three right now, but I am looking for a fourth."
(if said in the correct way, then it works. I know, I have used it.)

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Wow I will definitely be stealing this one from you.
 
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Bigg Boss said:
Wow I will definitely be stealing this one from you.
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:up:

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