"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You don't have a girlfriend? :)

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A girl who was extremely in to me (it was so obvious everyone could tell :p) once asked me "you don't have a girlfriend?!" Another girl's asked me that question again. And then...

This chick whom I met in an overseas conference came back to Taiwan today, and sms-ed me along with two other people she knew.
Though I wasn't jumping up and down about meeting her, I avoided the AFC thing anyway and kept the phone calling at a minimum...she stays in another city and she told me she'd be busy most of the day... so she told me to visit any day But saturday, but who the hell cares, my mom happened to be going to the same city she was living in on saturday so I took the opportunity to go...
met the girl today, had some great conversations, busted her balls once in a while though it never got sexy enough...

And then before I was about to leave, right in the middle of a conversation... she asked the same question:
"You don't have a girlfriend?"
It wasn't said in a tone that said "Ah poor you..." but it obviously sounded something like "(wow, youre so cool, and i'm surprised that)You don't have a girlfriend?!?!"

I gave an indifferent "no" and kept talking.

I've definately learned a lot from this site and have come to be a lot more attractive and everything, but chicks still confuse the hell out of me sometimes and i wanna hear what you guys have to say about this. Checked around on the forum for this topic and came up empty--i thought there'd be plenty of people with this experience?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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As you said it's one of two things, either she's saying it in a patronizing way like the typical, 'Awwww you don't have a gf that's such a shame you deserve one' (but funnily enough the girl won't go out with him) or 'Wow you're actually single? That's surprising, I am interested ...'. The type of interactions you have and her voice tone says it all though.

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"You don't have a girlfriend?"


Geeze! I just met you, I barely know you, we weren't even intimate, AND you want to be my girlfriend!!!!! I hope you are not one of those stalker types....

*****blah*****

You know I'm not one of those guys. I like to first see if woman are qualified to be with me.







They are asking this because they like you and want to be your girlfriend. At the same time it's a sh!t test.. If you're too good to be true, you'd say NO, or some silly thing like that.. These silly things are intellectual and do not provoke any emotion within her.. Speak to her emotions, tell her, yea I'm real, and yea you can have me, but you gotta work for it.. Like above..
 

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after the second time once you've confirmed her interest the first time you should've followed up with:

her: you don't have a gf?
you: what? you want to be my gf?

IF:

her: no...
you: yeah we're much better off as friends

IF:

her: yeah
you: damn I gotta put you on the waitlist. ;) but in the meantime while you're waiting, gimme ur #, meet me at 7, etc. blah blah
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Her: "You don't have a girlfriend?"
Me: "Nope, I got a wonderful boyfriend and he told me to go meet someone new."

or

Me: "I got three right now, but I am looking for a fourth."
(if said in the correct way, then it works. I know, I have used it.)

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comic_relief said:
Me: "I got three right now, but I am looking for a fourth."
(if said in the correct way, then it works. I know, I have used it.)

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Wow I will definitely be stealing this one from you.
 

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Bigg Boss said:
Wow I will definitely be stealing this one from you.
:up:

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