"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"You don't care about me anymore. :("

LinkinParkROX

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What would one do in an LTR, where the HB cries, ignores, and then says this.
I always thought caring and "being there" was AFC. What do I do?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Conquer

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dump her
 
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KontrollerX

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Its emotional manipulation.

When emotional manipulation is used on you, you must never react to it with what the woman wants to happen.

You either dump that b!tch, flippantly agree with her conclusion or just tiredly say "Yeah" and then go back to eating your sandwhich.

You'll only put up with as much crap as you're willing to tolerate in life ace.
 

Raikojo17

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She sounds passive aggressive to me. i wouldn't fall for that

if you care, stay. but if not, then leave

Caring and being there is not AFC. having feelings is not AFC

Being her groveling fool is AFC (actually, below AFC)
Learn2Terms

are you average?
frustrated with dating women?
are you a chump to women?

then you are not AFC, simple as that
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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women haze

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What's wrong with just saying "I do care"?? Should we be that heartless?
 

Warrior74

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this is your third or fourth post about this same bullshiit. Now your just trolling. Man up and either quit trolling or listen to the advice given. Douche.
 

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women haze said:
What's wrong with just saying "I do care"?? Should we be that heartless?
off course, just sayin "i do care" is gonna solve it :rolleyes:

i've heard those words so many times in so many ways that it does'nt effect me anymore.
most of the time people say it because you're not doing what they want you to do or when they're angry.

if he's done nothing wrong and actually does cares about her there's no reason for him to question his actions.
 

IKO69

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I'd let her have it for saying something like that. That's how they start wrapping you around their finger. It's like those 'if you loved me you'd get me *blank*" type of responses
 

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I'd just say not caring got me this far, why start now babe? And walk off. Ignore her for a while and she might end up appologizing or not. Who cares, because she's just trying to shame you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Kal0051

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is this your "best female friend" that you posted about before? Didn't you claim to not be interested in her but now your in a LTR with her?

Dude, it sounds like you got a bad case of oneitis. So stop acting like an AFC, break all contact with this girl for a while and get over it.
 

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Caring about a girl you've been dating for a long time is afc?... What?

I don't think there is anything wrong about caring for a girl you're dating. It's when you smother her with affection that it becomes "afc"ish.

And the girl is being childish. Call her on it.
 

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I would lean towards the possibility that the problem was with you instead of her. That somehow you changed, you were not the same as before when you started off with her.

Whether being AFC at first then changing to spinning more plates and as a result as a side effect giving off the DJ attitude or was it the other way round, this spells disaster.

However no one is to judge your situation due to the fantastic awesome kickass 2 lines given in explaning your situation so it could be due to like what KontrollerX says that it is a emotional manipulation.

And you need to listen to Stblack, caring and being there generally is not AFC. You are wrong; your mindset is wrong.
 
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