Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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You Didn't Call Back... Too Bad You've Now Missed Your Chance

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http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=47605

Ok, So I knew she wouldn't call back.

Thought about it a little bit, realized that she isn't really that interesting to me, I only wanted to **** her.

Turns out why shes coming this weekend is for a party because its her friends birthday (who was with her last week)

Im thinking if I called her and was like "oh you didn't ring me blah blah." that would be like every other guy. So instead i'm not gonna worry and let her wonder why I haven't rang back chasing her like the "Oh why didn't you ring..." BS...

So i'm gonna go to this party, and say to her something like "oh I see you didnt ring me back, I guess your just intimidated by my good looks, too bad, because now you've missed your chance"

hahah that will mess her up bad :) Whatever happens **** it, i'm sure there will be other chicks who i'd rather **** at the party and if she gets jealous and comes up to me, "oh im sorry" or whatever bs , I'll say, "great... how are you gonna make it up to me?"

Kinda thinking out loud here. What do you guys reakon? Whatever i'm gonna do it anyway.

-Ben
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Bonhomme

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Good idea if you really don't care much, BUT ...

keep in mind sometimes a gal who is really, REALLY hot for you will just get cold feet and chicken out. I've had that happen.

Then it's a bit tricky: you have to be firm, but cool and good-natured. Sometimes a gal will even pull this kind of crap as to see if you're cool enough to handle it the right way. Sometimes they might just be insecure. And sometimes they do this to see if you care enough to see them as good for more than a roll in the hay. Looks like you've just proven the theory behind that one, bro.

BTW, I didn't read the earlier post. This post is just FYI.
 

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Stop lying to yourself. If she's the person you've described to us, there's no way in hell (or heaven) she's gonna say some **** like, "I'm sorry."

Pass her up and don't even bring up the subject. Don't act cold towards her cuz that's not cool. Stay cool and treat her as you normally would without as much attention. gl.
 
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rben - u r going to do what u said anyway - but I thought I'd tell you that you are going to look childish and stupid for doing so. You should say nothing to this girl escept if she acknowledges you then return the gesture. Don't act like a pissed off 15 year old kid that has just been rejected!! Look and act manly and keep your dignity!!!
 

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Don't take dating things personally. Act civil with her like you were friendly. That will show her that you are a man; not a boy.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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but I thought I'd tell you that you are going to look childish and stupid for doing so. You should say nothing to this girl escept if she acknowledges you then return the gesture. Don't act like a pissed off 15 year old kid that has just been rejected!!

Exactly. This will kill any chance you had with her.

When you see her next, just re-attract her. Don't mention the fact that she didn't call you back.

But the thing is chicks don't really call back anyway. So that's no indication of their interest in you.
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
rben - u r going to do what u said anyway - but I thought I'd tell you that you are going to look childish and stupid for doing so. You should say nothing to this girl escept if she acknowledges you then return the gesture. Don't act like a pissed off 15 year old kid that has just been rejected!! Look and act manly and keep your dignity!!!
Bump!! First you say your not going to call her again *****ing about her not calling you. But you want to take it 2 steps further by calling her out at the party!!! LOL That's even worse bro!! You'll look insecure and weak!! Don't even mention anything, be civil and move on!!! Find new girls and chalk her up to experience.



PIMP
 

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The best way to get back at her is to pretend she doesn't exist. A girl flaked out on me for a date 2 weeks ago, I ignored her for a week and she suddenly wanted to talk to me... funny how that works.

If she does try and talk to you, just explain to her in a nice and polite manner that you don't put up with immature little girls, and then simply walk away.
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
rben - u r going to do what u said anyway - but I thought I'd tell you that you are going to look childish and stupid for doing so. You should say nothing to this girl escept if she acknowledges you then return the gesture. Don't act like a pissed off 15 year old kid that has just been rejected!! Look and act manly and keep your dignity!!!
whoa whoa....I'm only 15 and we're talking a sophisticated 15 yr old here (me). Don't think much about her. Drop her and move on. If she calls crawling back, THEN do what you planned, to a lesser degree (greater impact). hell, i think he already did it...aka, got ***** slapped.
 

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haha, nah I haven't already done it. Haha, now ive had a change of heart thanks to you guys. Group hug.. uh maybe not.

Im gonna goto the party and have some fun and ignore her a bit, then flirt a little bit, then go and find other things to do, like flirt with other girls. :)

Haha, well It sounded good at the time. I was gonna do it kind of jokingly, but guess if you guys didn't think that then it wouldn't come across that way.

I was thinking of just messaging her "oh too bad now youve just missed your chance :/" and see if I get a message or a call. But I guess not.

-Ben
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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