"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You can't be a bad boy unless you're hot?

skinnyguy

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I read a lot every day. I read blog by "relationship gurus" trying to give guys advice on how to get women.

Here is one of them:

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/lucia/12-reasons-women-can-t-stand-nice-guys

However, this writer, along with most other writers, fail to understand that bad boys are that way because they can be. Nice guys will always be nice, whether they like it or not, because if they try to act like a bad boy, they will be labeled a "douchebag" by women and will not get laid. On the other hand, the guy with muscles and tattoos will act the exact same way and clean up with those same women.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Zarky

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Sounds like a lot of speculation on your part, friend. How about trying to be more of a "bad boy," no matter what you look like, and let us know how it goes?
 

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A bad boy isn't a look. It's how you carry yourself. I think you should be seeking out an alpha mindset rather than a badboy one as you could easily be labelled a try hard and douchebag. The badboy attitude comes naturally when your alpha, not necessarily being bad boy but the confidence you exude when getting your mind into alpha mode comes across as natural badass.

Do some NLP, hit the gym and let confidence be your first weapon in your armoury
 

Uncharted

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This is dumb. I'm 5'10 175, no tattoos and not a gym rat and I've been labeled a "troublemaker" by girls because of my confidence and crazy (true) stories of my past that either I tell or they hear from others.

Women love excitement and emotional rollercoasters. Don't be boring and you'll be fine.
 
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