You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
At least one productive thing came out of this Flame War, it's Dipset_Mafia's post. Awsome post man!!!Originally posted by dipset_mafia
this is ridiculous... do you know what pretty means? do you understand the biology behind attraction? women are competing against eachother - but how do they win the competition? by landing the ALPHA, the best possible candidate for reproduction.
WOMEN & ATTRACTION. babies have large eyes, disproportionate to the size of their heads - look at super models, and the make-up isle... men find larger eyes attractive because it resembles a baby - something that triggers our protectional instincts... anyways, curvy figure is good for child bearing etc etc..
what i'm getting at is..
"competition" is natural selection.
and it IS MOST DEFINETELY directed at the opposite sex!!!
pro athletes are lean strong people - they demonstrate this through their competition - some come out on top. demonstrating that they're suitable to protect and healthy
women will wear make-up to accentuate their eyes to trigger protectional instincts in men, they'll wear form fitting clothing to show their female form, one that is good for child bearing.. notice the less attractive women will attempt to COVER UP these imperfections, hiding them, for them, hopefully guys won't notice. . . . . women will dress themselves to attract, to the degree that they feel necessary...... COMPETITION between women is merely to catch the eye of the ALPHA, ... ALTHOUGH IT IS COMPETITION BETWEEN THE WOMEN, THE PURPOSE IS NOT JUST TO BE THE "PRETTIEST" BUT TO LAND THE "BEST MAN" POSSIBLE.
whether you like it or not, birdy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
but lets remember the reason each and everyone of you is here is to pick me up. Maybe not me personally, but women.
You come on here and bash us, talk bad about us, say we don't know what we want,
But you spend an awful lot of time and effort trying to figure out how to pick us up.
I mean really think about it. Look at the number of posts and the number of members her. This whole site. Dedicated to picking up a woman like me who has no idea what she wants.
Funny if you ask me
The beauty of being a woman is we can go out and do that anytime we want, and we dont have to resort to sill antics to get it
waw, all i got was few pictures of her sucking some black guys offOriginally posted by Reagan
Actually, I got her opinion via email and I have to say, it's identical to my views.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Okay first off she sent me 5 pictures of herself. I don't know why.Originally posted by ThunderMaverick
Regan, what was the e-mail about? What does she believe?
And I have to know. We all have to know, because that is the reason for this whole topic.
She hasn't made a [point at all and yet she has everyone riled up. Guys, let's to this attention whore a favor and leave her alone
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I agree that it is silly to make any forum exclusive to gender. Believe it or not, women are welcome here. But they should also understand that this is primarily a guys hangout, and not take so much offense when some idiot says something offensive. The best way to deal with someone who attacks you is to not engage them at all. Do not even entertain the notion that they can get under your skin and you will not only save yourself endless frustration, but gain the silent respect of many. But nooooo, what does tseluca do? She makes posts that are really invitations to be attacked...bash you all I want? Almost makes me think you enjoy it some!Originally posted by tseluca
So pretty much, according to your argument, you are telling me that if I want advice on how to attract men, I should ask other women, because afterall men would be terrible to ask because they have never done it.
I like how you simultaneously play the victim whilst empowering yourself...very entertaining, but you are quite lost and mistaken in your viewpoint.Originally posted by tseluca
I think men are women haters, becuase utimatly we hold the cards when it comes to sex, We decide when and if you get it (excluding rape) and that makes most men insecure so they bash women.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.