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you call, she doesn't pick up, u will bump into her again, what to do?

drift king

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as per my other thread, i made a call to this HB i picked up on wednesday, i may have accidently ignored/blanked her on friday and today i made the call, no answer. no call back yet.

the thing is im in a campus college based setting, and unlike with other pick ups at a club or on the street we will bump into each other again so when i do, how should i behave?

dj bible says u should show your disdan and contempt to throw her off your interest, but only after u show your prizeability on the first meeting. i did this. and by accident ignored/blanked her the 2nd time. which according to the bible is correct even if not intentional.

now i make the call, she doesnt pick up im still waiting for a call back. when/if i see her tomorrow, i feel at this point its 50/50 she didnt answer cos i didnt raise enough interest when we met or the interest fell over the few days and after fridays incident. in my mind i feel i have to do what i did when i first met her and charm her back and get that IL up.

however if i overpursue or seem too keen that would make her lose interest. what do i do?
 

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if i ignore her again and act uninterested she'll think its cos im bitter she didn't call back, if she says 'sorry i didnt call u back i was busy' what do i say?

if she doesnt mention it at all, should i bring it up? she'll give me a flakey excuse but i'd counter with 'well you're losing points with me now.. u need to make it up to me somehow.' in a jokey ****y sort of way rather than a clingy upset type.

but the question is.. do u behave as u did when u first met her i.e. charming the panties off of her showing your interest or do u show your disinterest and disdain or a mixture of both.. i.e. charm her again mention she lost points with u for not calling u back then split and leave and see if she gets back to u apologising asking for another chance?'

normally i'd recharm her and then set up a date there and then. would me charming her, then acting like she blew it then walk away work better even tho it puts the ball in her court to get back to me?
 

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You act like its just one of your guy friends that didnt call back. You wouldnt really care, would you? You might bust on them a little , then let it go. Its part of the game, chicks flake, she owes you nothing. It sucks, but it's life, so dont let it affect you. Try to build up attraction next time you see her.

Read this article, it helps put flakes in perspective.

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/60078
 

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horaholic said:
You act like its just one of your guy friends that didnt call back. You wouldnt really care, would you? You might bust on them a little , then let it go. Its part of the game, chicks flake, she owes you nothing. It sucks, but it's life, so dont let it affect you. Try to build up attraction next time you see her.

Read this article, it helps put flakes in perspective.

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/60078
thats a good article, but it kinda contradicts the whole if u call too much u come across needy, i guess cos he's an expert so doesn't come through.. whereas when i do it they end up getting their friend to answer the phone saying they dont use that number anymore..

but next time i see her should i still try to date close or just increase the IL then say 'well u didnt call me back the other day to set up our date so you've lost points with me now.. so im not sure if im still attracted to you (jokingly) hmm maybe i'll give u another chance. we'll see. bye' but do it in a friendly jokey manner. would this backfire?

the idea i was thinking was to recharm her to raise IL then vacate to show what she's missed out on without her having a date.. i.e. me walking away. she's superhot so isn't used to that happening.. it just seems too complicated when her interest has dropped.

im planning on texting her our date arrangements tomorrow if i dont see her tho i could have done that straight after the call i made today doing it 24 hours after the call without her calling u back shows i waited 24 hours and followed up again..
 

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I gave her my number she never called.

I meat this girl she works at a strip club she is the shot girl.so we start flirting with each other at the end of the night I ask her for her number she tells me to give her mines ok.she never called so a week went by I saw her again this time she flirted with me she even tells me how cute iam exet,so she gives me her number I call her and now she dont pick up ive called 6 times in 3 days.what do I do
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

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Machete120 said:
I meat this girl she works at a strip club she is the shot girl.so we start flirting with each other at the end of the night I ask her for her number she tells me to give her mines ok.she never called so a week went by I saw her again this time she flirted with me she even tells me how cute iam exet,so she gives me her number I call her and now she dont pick up ive called 6 times in 3 days.what do I do
1. move on....they do that to all customers. calling 6 times in 3 days made you look desperate. she won't be calling you.

2. stop gaming women at strip clubs

4. if a girl doesn't call back...so what. It's not life or death here.
 

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I got one word for you homeboy, Indifference!

Don't act like it bothered you, just play it cool.
 
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