“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You 'buy' a relationship, not 'build' one

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What the hell do I mean?

You 'buy' a relationship NOT build one.

It means when you first meet a woman she has to ALREADY have the potential for being a partner.

Take computers. You could build one yourself. I saw them. They are called 'kits'.
Very, very few people have the desire and patience to build their own computer.

But that's what most guys try to do in relationships. They try to 'build' a relationship with talk and kindness and gifts and flowers.

All the while the woman is not the sort of woman who should be IN a relationship.

A woman who is not relationship worthy will think nothing of dating you.
She thinks she has every right to. Even though she is demented.

When you 'buy' a car, you don't try to put a different transmission into it. You don't put 'bigfoot' tires on it either.

You buy it the way you WANT it to be. If it's not RIGHT you don't buy it at all!

If your girlfriend is not acting like you think she should be, it's because you didn't 'buy' a relationship.

You thought you were smarter than the Don Juan who CHOSE the right one in the first place.

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Great post!

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"Women. They've got half the money in the world and all the pu$$y."
 
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Yeah, great! Never thought of that! But I have to disagree on the computer and car parts... :) I'm into tuning cars and I like to do stuff myself! So, when I buy a car it's not left the way it was! And I don't buy it (yeah I wish.. I need money to do that :p ) with all the options (e.g. a preinstalled stereo, or sweet rims)... My current computer is also built from separate parts. This, of course, is just me... But I totally agree that I should not adapt that diy-style to women :)
Looks like BBB has been reading some old posts :)
 
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Great concept.

I've bought the "Cars" or "Computers" in the past that you've

mentioned above only because they were on sale at the right

time!

A lemon will always be a fruit nomatter what. lol

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It's funny because I see it differently. Maybe I'm just clinging to my denotations for the words "buy" and "build" but I feel that you build a relationship by building attraction, comfort and then seduction (whichever order you use is up to you) whereas if you buy a relationship (getting gifts, flowers, and in some cases cars after only one week of dating...) you have a better chance of scaring the woman off, or even worse, ending up with a woman where these actions are considered to be "required". It's better to "build" something than it is to "buy" it because you understand better how it works. However, you do have to have the right materials (woman) first before you start building anything.
 
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Well the message being conveyed is not as literal as you think Formico.


When he says you buy a relationship, he's not saying you smother her in gifts and affection....

He's saying you find one that's already right for you...

You don't go to the store to buy a red medium shirt to take it home spend a few weeks on it to make it a green XL shirt.... Not when you can just buy your green XL shirt outright.

Just like you don't become a woman's friend to "build" your relationship.

You just find the right one and skip the hassle.
 
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Great little post! Puts a totally new spin on "buying" the babe!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Formico said:
It's funny because I see it differently. Maybe I'm just clinging to my denotations for the words "buy" and "build" but I feel that you build a relationship by building attraction, comfort and then seduction (whichever order you use is up to you)
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thats called test driving it.


the rest you are confusing the issue with semantics over terminology.
 
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I disagree because then you start looking at every chick as a potential Girlfriend or wife

I thought the point of dating around was to have fun and see where it goes, not to find the "One"
 
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Arakune said:
I disagree because then you start looking at every chick as a potential Girlfriend or wife

I thought the point of dating around was to have fun and see where it goes, not to find the "One"
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Has it ever occured to you that different people want different things?

This "see where it goes" is what gets us guys in trouble way too often. The onluy way to find someone worthy of having a relationship is to wwed out the hundreds of unworthy girls first. Thats why he says 'buy a relationship', and not build one. Building a relationship is like trying to change someone to suit your needs. Buying a relationship means you have made your selection of the ideal woman, and then go find her, instead of taking a crap woman and trying to build her into a housewife. It doesnt work too well, Im sure we've all noticed. If she aint what you want, dont buy it, and dont try to build her up.

How can you possibly disagree with this concept?
 
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This is silly.

Life is about growth and evolving and relationships are not there to be the perfect car or computer, they are there to teach you about yourself, in relation to other people.

Aside from the erroneous analogy between a woman and a car that you can buy with different options, even if you could customize a woman, the point of a relationship isn't to have a woman who serves your every need, as if she was a car or computer but to learn and grow from the relationship.

In reality, you don't even KNOW what girl is best for you, you only have some rough ideas.
 
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