"You are too blunt"

[ubercat]

It's good that you're trying to improve your social skills. We can all do it with a bit of that. However if this is just from chicks and your friends aren't calling you out on it as well I wouldn't worry about it. Asking woman out is always sh1t test city. You 'll get all kinds of reactions. My girlfriend's Asian and culturally a bit shy on body contact. Our first date was at a driving range and mini golf. She loves to give me s*** about how I put my hands all over her ass while I was showing her how to hit the ball. So what she kept turning up and getting hornier each date which is all I pay attention to. Don't worry about their words or texts too much. Just treat it like being tuned into chick radio. It's just background noise

 

[Roober]

Lol you kidding me? What he did is EXACTLY the type of thing a king would have done. Just letting it pass like that shows that the ruler can be disrespected and he will not do anything about it. What you are suggesting is weak behavior, not the way OP handled it. And it was by no means at all passive aggressive. If anything, he actually WAS too blunt. That's the whole point of this thread. He wants to know if he was being too direct. I'd say it wasn't too blunt though. He just pointed out what happened and said it was rude and that he wanted an apology. Not passive aggressive at all.

"kind of inconsiderate though tbh" is passive aggressive. Blunt would be something along the lines of "flaking on our date is unacceptable" or "I set time aside for you and you changed planned. I don't appreciate that"... Now, mind you, I am not good with words in text, but you get the idea...

The girl flaked, and he did not provide further context, but she did offer another date. The reason and timing is not listed as well. If you can make it work, then go for it. Otherwise, she will have to wait until he is free again. But instead he tells her, "But you should at least apologize"... why? do you need her apology? Is she 5 years old? If he established himself already, the apology would have been right with the flake. She would say "omg, I am so sorry I can't make it tonight/tomorrow, can you do XXX?" He shouldn't have to request it... Requesting an apology shows who has the power...

So, I stand by what I said... the statements are passive aggressive and weak... If you can't understand, then I am trying to teach Astrophysics to an English major... toe-may-tow or toe-mah-tow?

 

[Urbanyst]

I don't agree with that at all. Blunt is being too direct, candid, forthright. He called her out for being rude in a direct manner. So are you telling me you let that kind of schitt fly for fear of coming across as trying too hard or caring too much?

Nope.

I don't let disrespect fly. But I also don't flip out over trivial matters with women.

 

[FwoGiZ]

Trying to rationalize with a women is bluepill in my book. Trying to make them feel accountable is the same. Women do no work like that, accept that or ***** as much as you want.
In the end, you'd be happier with a boyfriend probably ;P

If you expect everyone and anyone to respect you the way you expect, you'll be surprised... then if you try to correct and control the way everyone and anyone talk to you or treat you, you'll be exhausted, angry and in all honesty, basically what an AFC is.

Personally, I have better **** to do and couldn't care less what idiots around me do. They're not worth my time and ever since I stopped giving a fck, it seems to me my life got much better. I put more emphasis on the good things, more on my energy from flaky girls to interested girls.