"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You are the biggest peice of sh**....

Game617

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I got a text last night saying "You are the biggest piece of **** I ever met. You disgust me. I hate you. *******". She tells me she hopes I had a good fk and caught STD's. Tell's me it's over.

Does this mean she loves me????? Is this ********??? hahaha

I've been talking to her and seeing her. We got into a fight a couple weeks back, she said it's over and we're not compatible. (I was acting like an ******* to her.) We never talked about being exclusive.

What is your advice on this? I'm not begging and pleading for ****. And I'm not apologizing. Should I try to reach out to her because it's anger.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NotoriousGRK

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Dude you are so in :crackup:

Just be a man and make the first move. She will be all over you! :up:

Joking aside, get rid of her.
 

alpha_ash

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Hahaha great situation. Please share with us how you proceed and how it turns out!

If I were you, I would contact her calmly and give her a chance to meet and then have her apologize. After that, see what she does and also share with us!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Crazystarf

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She's probably having a fit due to her bpd, if she was really calm and kind before she's acting like this. Observe her behaviour to see if she's having a fit or if she's genuinely angry.

I still need to know more about your situation tho
 

VladPatton

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This is still better than being called 'just a friend'. Her hamster wheel is powering a small city at this point! Nice.
 

DonJuanabe

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Reply: "I didn't realize you wanted to be exclusive. Now I know..."

Leave it at that -- she won't know what to make of it. It says she is the needy one but doesn't say one way or the other whether you want to be exclusive and leaves her wondering if you do or don't.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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