"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You are going to die someday....

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That really just hit me, but what really hit me is that I just experienced a out of body experience... I won't be able to feel, see, touch, hear, say or anything at all which is tabula rasa. If you really think down deep its interesting..and experience it... Like seriously you are going to wiped out, gone from existence about 28 thousand days from now on. No more 2nd chances, no more chances. " GONE " try to really feel it :) its cool and interesting
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MisterMcGee

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We're all gonna actually *die* in around 40-60 years.
For most of us, there's only like 10ish years left for picking up attractive women.
 

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The whole world could die next year. We could have all died many times by now ever since the nuclear bomb was invented.

Definitely we are only here for a finite time - gotta make the best of it - but how many of us do? Not many.

Out of body experiences as well as deep meditation and astral projection lead to a VERY wide spiritual perspective. Anyone with experience in those fields is lucky! Because yes, when we die, we will no longer have these bodies and will communicate, travel and experience completely with the mind. The dimensions we will go will be completely beyond our comprehension in this earthly body - so for now we should enjoy this physical body and this simple physical world. It's very easy to 'get stuff done' here.
 

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Don't worry about it. When you are dead you aren't even there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Haha, it's true... We WILL all die one day! This can be a motivator for some folks. Do courage! Don't be afraid of telling stupid things, don't choose to be passive insetad of saying something... Even if you do say the dumbest thing, make it SOUND awsome! :p

Second thing... Your TIME matters!! Don't stay at social conventions because you think you SHOULD stay there... If you're bored, get the heck out of there! Your TIME matters more then someone elses approval... Thinking of it, this also would help the desperation issue... Why spend TIME after ONE girl, when there are millions out there? And why not INVEST the TIME with yourself, the only person who is always with you, and in the end, get A LOT of girls? :p (Creds to pook for this enlightment!).

Haha, I sure do hope this emotional outburst lasts long, after all, it's up to HIM to decide to win over his negative devils with himself in his company... And of course, everyone here would love to help him do that (I hope). :p
 

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im not on any drugs, I am going through a couple of health issues... And when you realize that your health is the most important thing in the world.... you realize that girls and other things like that are minsicule compared to you and your well being.. You then start paying attention to things that are important
 

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I was kidding. But your right. We all will die someday, make the best out of your life. I do think of that every now and then, and it makes you realize you really should live every day to it's fullest and NEVER hold anything back!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Smartone84

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well he's right, it will happen one day, and it just makes you think, that you should appreciate the life and for most of us, the YOUTH we have right now. As stated above, we may die in about 50 years but we only have about 10 years left of getting chances of picking up attractive women and getting married.

I thought about this once before, and its just sad. Its sad how some women are such snobs and play so hard to get and make us good guys do so much work to get them knowing that yes, we all are gonna be dead one day, which will come sooner than we think
 

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anyone ever feel like they need to do something big to impact the earth, so they arnt forgotten?
 

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Groovy said:
Second thing... Your TIME matters!! Don't stay at social conventions because you think you SHOULD stay there... If you're bored, get the heck out of there!
****in truth. People kick around for hours just bored to tears because they think being in a social group gives them value. No way. The less time you waste 'hanging out' the higher your value and the more time you save.

Just IMAGINE the thousands of hours spent wasting time with other boring ass people - when life is short.
 

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Five To One said:
anyone ever feel like they need to do something big to impact the earth, so they arnt forgotten?
Yes.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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