"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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you absolutely NEED to WANT it, or else you will FAIL

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That’s right, anything and everything in life, from sports to work to $$ to ***** to love, if you don’t TRULY WANT it, then you will never TRULY GET IT. What do I mean?? I mean that I am pretty sure that most of us (including me sometimes) don’t have the proper “I ****ING WANT IT SO BAD” mind set when it comes to lotsa things, and then we put in a passive aggressive effort and then are pissed about the lackluster results!!!

You want examples from skip?? Sure, here you go:

1) You want to **** the girl who’s giving you buying signals. She is interested in you. You go over to her and run your game on her almost as if you ARE GOING THROUGH THE MOTIONS………because having sex with her is just a typical “**** a hot *****” type of thing that you like to do, but don’t TRULY care about it. With this approach, you fail to end up ****ing her more often than not, and then your pissed. YOU FAIL BECAUSE U DON’T TRULY WANT HER IN YOUR HEART OF HEARTS. YOU NEED TO HAVE THAT PASSION INSIDE YOU, TELLING YOURSELF “wow she is truly amazing, I will **** her brains out and enjoy every goddamn second of it, it will be the best thing in her life and in my life, I NEED to **** her, I truly passionately want my **** inside HER”…………..that is basically called “Sexual State” which we all know about. A lot of symps and frustrated guys are out there wanting and needing sex, but they usually don’t get it because their approach is “passive aggressive” and they do not PASSIONATELY want to just **** her.

(note: jerking off less is one way to get more of that passion I speak of). ANYWAY that example is a little too ho-chasish maybe, but still a good one nonetheless. Onto my next example:

2) You want to find a woman or several women to be on your team, to be your girlfriends, and to hopefully have them fall in love with you so they will do EVERYTHING for you, the pimp that you are. One problem. Let me ask you, do you TRULY ****ING PASSIONATELY WANT WANT WANT WANT THAT???? Or do you just “want” that because that’s the thing to do and you might as well do it while you are still alive. If you try finding any kind of relationship with the attitude of “I want love, it’s the thing to do”, then u will fail with many women. However if you realize that you DEEP DOWN truthfully honestly just CRAVE to find love, making that your irreplacable inner passion, then you WILL find love, and you WILL find it fast.

3) Sports…………very easy one to explain. So you see Kobe Bryant and he is so good in your eyes, you wanna take up basketball and become an NBA player. Do you want to do that just because it looks cool, makes youe millions, and you want to mimic your favorite player (aka kobe). OR, do you PASSIONATLY, MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD TRULY WHOLE HEARTEDLY WANT TO BE THE BEST THERE EVER WAS IN BASKETBALL???? You will NOT succeed unless you have a CRAZY PASSION about exactly what you want

4) Work/Money – easier to explain. Do you want to be rich and run a successful business just because it looks like a great life and u would love to have it?? OR do you want to be rich and famous because you have an UNCONTROLLABLE DESIRE TO BE YOUR OWN BOSS, MAKE CUSTOMERS HAPPY, AND LIVE A WEALTHY LIFESTYLE?? DO YOU PASSIONATELY WANT TO OWN YOUR OWN AIRPLANE? DO YOU PASSIONATELY WANT MILLIONS OF DOLLRS?? Not because its “the obvious good thing” to do, but because YOU ARE AMAZED BY IT, AND NEED IT


Obviously there can be other examples, so you get the point.

Here are my real life examples of what I am preaching about

1) When I wanted to find love, I approached every interested girl not in a “well I guess we can date and find out if we are compatible” kind of way. Instead, I approached them with passion and devotion to my goal at hand – LOVE. I let my heart go due to my desires and have endedup with many girsl falling in love with me, because they saw how deep my passion was and they followed. Everytime I wanted love, I attained it due to my INNER DESIRE to have it.

2) I saw streetball, I loved how they play………..i took a goddamn basketball, and I would dribble for hours every day because I NEEDED to be able to do what they do and then some. I NEEDED to be a baller, I did not wanna be “white boy poser with a baskebtall”…….i had the PASSION, and the results have been phenomenal.

3) When I want to **** a girl I am on a date with, when I knew that I SHOULD **** her cuz shes attractive, but I didn’t have that unexplainable passion to WANT to do it, I always ended up not getting laid. However, when I came into the date KNOWING that I NEED THAT ***** TONIGHT, I have almost never failed, as my passion and sexual desire shines through and changes the whole mood of the interaction, you need to be passionate about things.


BE SO PASSIONATE THAT YOU ARE ALMOST OBSESSED WITH GETTING WHAT YOU WANT, AND YOU WILL GET IT!
Be passive aggressive, and you will get nothing.




So let me ask you all one more question – did you make your last cold approach to a girl who gave you eye contact just because “well she gave me eye contact, and shes hot, so I should approach her” (aka you felt you need to because that’s the process). OR, did you cold approach the girl who gave you eye contact because you NEEDED to meet her and talk to her and YOU COULD NOT CONTROL YOUR DESIRE SO MUCH TO THE POINT THAT NOT MEETING HER WOULD BE A CRIME IN YOUR EYES.

You NEED to WANT IT, and WANT IT BADLY
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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he right in what he's saying, you must WANT to achieve whatever it is! you have to have the right mind set to achieve anything in life, otherwise you will fail, but we already knew that, right?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you got to want it, otherwise its just going through the motions ..


i would say its an important thread that missing on these forums.
 

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good post skip. Don't mind the ignorant replies. You can't summarize

The topic of 'burning desire' is described even better in the book 'Think and grow rich'. You can't summarize it in three words.
 

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weren't you banned bro?
 
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LA_Chico said:
weren't you banned bro?

YOU never say anything constructive, bro.

I'd like everyone to search all of your 308 posts and i want someone to point out to me even ONE post of yours that wasn't a useless 1 liner comment which served no purpose.

bro
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Babnik

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This is true. You do need to want it, but not need it.

Its hard to explain... you need to show fire of desire in your eyes, you need to make her see how you want to throw her against the wall and screw her brains out, BUT at the same time not show dependency, fear of anything, and not show desperation for ATTENTION or ACCEPTANCE.
 

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I'm not singleing you out skip. But, why don't people just spell the bad language word wrong, instead of several words saying, ********* and us not knowing what the helll you are saying.
 

BluEyes

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Don't listen to all the basement pigs/skinny nerds man.

95% of people here, and in the real world for that matter, sh1t on anything designed to be constructive and supportive.

Solid post, it made me realize why I've shot myself in the foot afew times.

peace
 
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