Yoson, your calling me this weekend right?

[Yoson]

That caught me off guard.

Anyways, that put me on the spot and i really didnt know what to say. So off the top of my head i said... Ummm, im not sure if ill be able to this weekend. I guess i said the wrong thing, cuz she looked pissed and didnt talk to me for the rest of the party. (but i wasnt at the party long tonight though). What was i supposed to say?

Btw, ive had her's and 2 other girl's numbers for like 2 weeks. As we speak the numbers are sitting right in front of me. But i havent called cuz ive never been on a date before and i think im gonna **** it up i guess.

Right now, i can make great 15 min small talk. But after that im lost in the dark. On a date i dont know how i would survive.

My question is, what topics do you normally bring up on a first date? Also, what would be a good date for a beginner like myself?

I know i keep hearing that iceskating is a good first date, but i never ice skated before, so i dont know if thats a good idea.

Oh yeah, i would like some responces tonight

 

[MrNiceGuy]

you've got friends right? you can talk to them for more than 15 minutes I hope. When you first met them what did you talk about?

girls are not that much different..
talk about your job, what you do in your spare time, where you grew up, what happening in the news, what youve been doing recently etc. etc. and ASK HER ABOUT HERSELF, get her to do most of the talking.

If the two of you cant manage a conversation of longer than 15 minutes, then its not worth knowing her anyhow..

 

[OpenMind]

Call her to set up a date and get the hell off the phone. No need to be a woman and have a conversation with her, thats what her friends are for. What you should be asking is what can i do on my date and what should I say? If you cant get a date with her than dont even sweat what to say to her on the phone because it is totally irrelevant. Get the date first.... talk later.. good luck!

 

[OpenMind]

And dont call this weekend! wait till tuesday or wednesday.. you are not her servent.. she is yours..

 

[MrNiceGuy]

all that I said in my post I meant for on the date..

Openmind is right. when you call keep it to less than 5 mins, polite how are yous? etc. organise the time and the place, then say see you there and hang up.

 

[Yoson]

Originally posted by MrNiceGuy
When you first met them what did you talk about?

You see thats the thing, now that im in college, im just now trying to learn how to make friends. Cuz back in from middle school to highschool, i was a star athlete. So people tried to be friend with me. So now, being on the other side of things is all new to me.

What you should be asking is what can i do on my date and what should I say?

Posted by OpenMind

I guess i typed it up wrong, but what im asking is what should i do on a date. Particularly on a iceskating date. Unless you have a better idea for me. Also, how long should it last and where else do i take her to?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Oh that must be great =) We don't have those icerinks etc here... But you will just skate together etc and talk =) Really cool and romantic. Lots of gigling and lots of opportunities for kissing if you do it right =)

 

[whoa]

this is what happened to me but apparently on a much worse scale. one of the persons that responded to my post said that I (and you apparently) were caught off guard because THEY were the ones initiating. we're so used to initiating convos, dates, whatever, that it just comes as a surprise when the girl does it.... or maybe im just spewing bs.