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Yoga Class & Talk Anxiety

Clement

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Hello,

Ok, so I am in a Yoga class at college. Trying to keep plates spinning, so I have seen a few girls that give me looks and must find me attractive, but I always make excuses or whatever when about to converse. For instance, there was a HB 8 next to me and she even WAITED after class, texting after most were leaving, and I could not summon anything to say. Or, in this situation, I converse with someone else I am familiar with.

I suppose I do not want to ruin reputation in college. Something stops me from talking with girls I do not know or do. I want numbers and plates spinning, so this is an issue.

What can I do in this situation as well as others to just strike up a convo without worrying about my college reputation?

Thanks in advance.

Clement
 

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Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Serg897

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Good topic.

I ussually do at least one yoga class a week. Generally these arent the most social environments, most people are there for the yoga, come right before the class and leave right afterwards. Generally this should be your attitude.

However, keep your eyes open. Sometimes a girl will indicate she is interested ussually by making eye contact, sometimes she will even smile at you. Its up to you in this instance to capitalize - approach after class and comment on some pose that was done. Take it from there.

I've gotten number closes this way a few times. I'll reiterate that yoga classes arent ussually the best environments to actually meet someone, but once in a while it does happen. Don't worry about your reputation if you do this - nobody is going to gossip just because you talk to a girl or two after class. Go for the yoga (its great exercise, both mentally and physically) but be aware of your surroundings and seize any oppurtunities.
 

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Yes I've taken a few courses also (harder than it looks) and it's mostly unglamourous, sweaty women who have their b*tch shields up for that reason. It's good for getting to know the instructor though.

I was once the only guy in a bar where the yoga class of all women had just got out. The instructor came over and said "Are you single? Because there are a lot of single women here." I looked around and fled.
 

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Thanks! That is helpful and the detail about people going to yoga for specifically yoga is very true. Luckily, I have been doing so, but I realized how I could be taking more advantage if someone is attracted.

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Clement
 

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You just need an ice-breaker dude, something like talking about a pose or asking "how did you find the class"? will do fine, you can go from there.

You don't have anything to lose and no one should necessarily think you're hitting on them so go for it. The more practice you get the better.

If in doubt just ask questions, and if you hit a brick wall then nevermind, at least you sharpened your spear a little more :)
 

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Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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