Yo all! possible oneitis...

[Cuda]

I´d thought I would pop my question here.

I am kind of new to this whole game, and therefore this is my first post here.
I will try to keep it as short as I can.

Some weeks back I hooked up with this chick at a friends party.
Did not play her at all, we talked and that was it.
But somehow, we hooked up after that, she spent 2 weekends at my place.
And I visited her at her place a few times.

Everything was going fine, it was smooth, and I felt we could talk about things and do stuff in a relaxed way.

But I called her like 3 weeks ago, and we talked a bit.
And we said we should hook up on the sunday.
But then like 10 minutes in the conversation, she blows me off.
Says it is better if don´t meet at all.
WTF! what is this.

So I said, ok if that is what you want, sure.
So I asked if she knew what she was doing.
And if she was sure of she was doing, and then I hung up.

And now I suffer from this weirdass Oneitis!
And I hate it.

Picking up others, don´t really help.

It has gone so far that I am thinking about writing some letter and send to her.

Advice needed, I am falling to pieces.
Nah, not really, some days are ok, and some days aren´t

Cheers!

 

[Thomas20]

She gave you a sh1t test and you failed - It is over. And this was 3 weeks ago? You had no contact until then? Forget her. Pls do not write her a letter or anything else. If she does not want you, it is her own fault that she misses the great opportunity to be with you.
There was one small mistake you were making, I think the answer wasn't bad at all, that you said, you don't mind if she doesn't want to meet you. But you should have said something like, good that you tell me, now I can hook up with this other chick I have. I am sure she would have tried to be with you. Maybe during to conversation you said something, that showed her that you like her too much or you called her to often or I don't know. If you lose one fvcking sh1t test, it can all be over. Who understands women?

 

[Cuda]

Thanks for your reply!

Yep, you are right, I did fail at some test.
Just not sure what the test was... which kinda bugs the hell out of me.
But nevermind, I have not had any contact since that call, so better keep it that way.

Also reading that BPD thread, did help me a lot.
There was so many reminders there, so many things that was so similar to the way we hooked up.

I have a 6.5 year relationship behind me with a bpd gurl, and thought maybe this gurl was different, but how could I have forgot, all those things, that makes them bpd.
I got sucked right back in.
Which I think was pure comfort for me, I know that bpd world, I have been in it for quite some years.

Wheeee, just happy that she actually saved me, by letting me go.

Keep your fingers crossed that she does not contact me...

So, onto some other chicks, and back to the work with trying to get numbers of them...