"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yet an other double standard when it comes of chasing someone

Who Dares Win

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Did you notice the biggest double standard when it comes of chasing someone?

If a guy chase a girl who has no interest in him without getting the hints he get reproached from his friends and the girl's friends, he is told to stop cause he is becoming annoying and that he should move on and leave her alone

In the opposite case when its a girl to chase guy its the other way around both his friends and the girls friends shame him for being an assh0le or for not being a real man, he get asked if he is gay and so on..of course no one bothers to tell the girl to let it go and move on.

The guy gets even accused of being arrogant for considering her not good enough for him, it seems he is bad guy altought its him to withstand that annoying situation.

And this is getting worse day by day once those same fatties who reject other fatties are getting confident and c0cky and going for average to good looking guys.

Being an average guy starts to be a pain in the ass..it takes a load of work to catch hot ones while being the favourite target of these acclaimed "new hotties" :eek:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hey, can't blame a fatty for wanting something better.

If a chunker believes they are the prize and confident enough to aim beyond their league, let them try. They'll fail of course.

I thought the idea was to work out, make lots of money doing....whatever, and then letting the nice beta girls come to you.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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You shouldn't let anyone shame you. Seriously. How can you let someone shame you and not fire back at them? How can you let someone do that to you without you retaliating? They just openly insult you and you don't know what to say? Shame them the hell back! Who gives a fvck about double standards? The only double standard you have to worry about is not hitting a woman when they can hit you just because of the legal consequences because you can't really change the law. But if the consequences are only social, the stronger person wins. How can you let someone else have a stronger personality than you when you have help from websites such as these? Why would you LET yourself get shamed? I'm so sick of people talking about shaming like there's nothing you can do about it.
 

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You shouldn't let anyone shame you. Seriously. How can you let someone shame you and not fire back at them? How can you let someone do that to you without you retaliating? They just openly insult you and you don't know what to say? Shame them the hell back! Who gives a fvck about double standards? The only double standard you have to worry about is not hitting a woman when they can hit you just because of the legal consequences because you can't really change the law. But if the consequences are only social, the stronger person wins. How can you let someone else have a stronger personality than you when you have help from websites such as these? Why would you LET yourself get shamed? I'm so sick of people talking about shaming like there's nothing you can do about it.
In general, the best response to an insult is no response or an amused look at best.
 

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I've literally never known of a situation where a guy get's heat from anyone for clearly and politely declining the advances of a woman. Especially one who is obviously "beneath" him
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If a guy chase a girl who has no interest in him without getting the hints he get reproached from his friends and the girl's friends, he is told to stop cause he is becoming annoying and that he should move on and leave her alone

In the opposite case when its a girl to chase guy its the other way around both his friends and the girls friends shame him for being an assh0le or for not being a real man, he get asked if he is gay and so on..of course no one bothers to tell the girl to let it go and move on.

The guy gets even accused of being arrogant for considering her not good enough for him, it seems he is bad guy altought its him to withstand that annoying situation.
A real man doesn't give a **** about any of this.
 

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I've literally never known of a situation where a guy get's heat from anyone for clearly and politely declining the advances of a woman. Especially one who is obviously "beneath" him
I experienced what the OP describes with the SAME woman in my AFC past. Was nice and polite to her, but continued rejecting her advances. She wouldn't stop. This happened over a two year period, and to be honest perhaps I should have rejected her harshly just because it was so annoying, but I was too nice back then. Women like this don't take rejection well. Then I messed up on my own... was in a drought and went back to her in a period of desperation. Long story short, she made me think she was still into me, then rejected me and acted like she hadn't given me any signals of interest and I was a crazy harasser... Everyone we knew in common took her side. The more I tried to damage control, the worse it got. Even people who encouraged me to give her a chance in the past acted like I was the d-ck.

Just goes to show you what a bitter woman is capable of. Anyhow, it ended up being a valuable experience for me in that it taught me to never chase and never lower my standards, and perhaps more importantly, to not give a flying f-ck about anyone's opinion of me.
 

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Agreed, I wasn't implying that OP doesn't have a valid point - only that it doesn't matter. :cool:
 

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Never thought of this but it's true, I´ve been there. A few years ago, co-workers tried to set me up with a fat girl from work. I kind of wanted to give it a try as she is a good persona and has a pretty face but couldn´t bring myself to it. Co-workers couldn´t believe it, they said I was "poniendome mis moños" (kind of like being super picky or something). It´s happened other times too and every time I can´t bring myself to feel anything for fat, ugly or fugly girls.
 

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Yeah, men are not allowed to have standards. Remember?

I'm probably in the minority here, but I enjoy it when women shame me. It means their ego is getting damaged and they are trying to take the power back. Its a good thing as long as they don't try to screw up your life over the ego damage.

But I get a kick out of sh*t testing women sometimes. Entertainment!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Modern Dating is setup for betas/afc's/orbiters. It's expected, that you behave in this manner.

We need a new model.
 
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