Yes means yes.... womens' roles and responsibilities

[TheMonkeyKing]

It has occurred to me that when it comes to the fine art of seduction, a woman's role is not simply to provide consent at the point of copulation. Their behaviours prior to and up to that point during the engagement with her would-be lover play a decisive role in avoiding the terrors that plague both sexes when it comes to the sensitive subject of rape.

If a man's responsibility is to gain consent, I would like to know what (if any) responsibilities my fellow SoSuave contributors think women have in avoiding confusion of both parties.

 

[nismo-4]

Damn, we might have to start videotaping anytime sex happens so the woman can't deny it. While we're both getting off, the video evidence should get the guys off!

 

[Bingo-Player]

i don't really understand the question but if your trying to ask what signals a woman needs to give a guy to confirm she is DTF

then i would say eye contact

when a woman wants to fvck you she will let you know with her eyes trust

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I suppose I was inferring that women should be more aware of men's sexuality and the influence they have over it.

Some examples that occurred to me:

-Dress provocatively/conservatively owing to one's 'availability' and do not complain when people 'ogle' anything that's blatantly 'on show' anyway.

-Don't be so naïve to think that by engaging in conversation, AT LEAST 50% of guys will have an ulterior motive. And a good 60% of guys have absolutely no interest in what you're saying. They just wanna jump your bones.

-When getting physical, even kissing, beware that a guy will definitely be looking for more, probably in the very short term.

-Once you agree to go back/take a guy back, you better be 99% sure you're willing to do the deed, otherwise you are definitely being a c0ck-tease. Either that, or you make it absolutely clear as day that he's sleeping on the sofa.

-Once you're in bed, you better be pretty much 100% sure you're going to see the whole thing through. Make the decision in your own head and stick to it.

NB. doing the deed and then falsely accusing someone, when you blatantly agreed an loved every minute of it, is low. Really f*cking low; to the point where you deserve nothing but spinsterhood for the remainder of your days.

 

[AttackFormation]

I suppose I was inferring that women should be more aware of men's sexuality and the influence they have over it...

The problem is you suppose that women care at all what the male perspective is when they only rarely do so, and even then usually in a condescending and ignorant way, which is coupled with their usually lacking ability to self-reflect.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

The problem is you suppose that women care at all what the male perspective is when they only rarely do so, and even then usually in a condescending and ignorant way, which is coupled with their usually lacking ability to self-reflect.

Well this is very true. The inability of folks (especially women) to see five minutes beyond the point of their current action is about 75% of the problem.

I suppose I am placing too much faith in them to be able to change their own behaviours and make decisions; not things they are famously good at.

The age old duplicity of 'I want attention, but only as much attention as I want.'