"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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yeah - no - maybe so

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i like her, i am not sure if she likes me, we went out last night with friends and my sisters. it was weird. didn't really talk that much except for here and there. i don't know. should i just think "whatever happens happens?" like let things work out themselves, or should i keep pushing it. plenty of other fish in the sea just wondering if i should keep trying to fish for this one. shes really cute and i like her alot
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just trust your gut instinct. If you like her than sh!t man go for it. However, at the same time don't come off as desperate. If she rejects you don't worry about it, cuz as you said there are plenty of fish in the sea.
 

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Originally posted by cyjay201
If she rejects you don't worry about it, cuz as you said there are plenty of fish in the sea.
 

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thx guys. it was wierd last night when we went out. like we talked a lot and then later she didn't talk. when we were together we laughed alot and had a great time. but near her friends it was different. i like her so i'll just keep pushing. i just dont think she likes me as much as i like her.
 

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why dont you stop analyzing and do something about it then? ask her out on a date to gauge her response.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah do that...but I definetely hear. Chicks throw that **** at you all the time. So confusing. Anybody wanna fill this one? Honestly? Why do u chicks play this femine version of ganji games with you? I really don't think women are THAT calculating that they would be "testing" you...isn't there a simpler reason why somebody that you're involved with would just start acting radically different? Interesting....
 

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Originally posted by Enigma2517
Anybody wanna fill this one? Honestly? Why do u chicks play this femine version of ganji games with you? I really don't think women are THAT calculating that they would be "testing" you...isn't there a simpler reason why somebody that you're involved with would just start acting radically different? Interesting....
Women of all kinds love attention. Most have learned that by using their feminine charms and playing keep away, they can get a guy hooked, line and sinker.

The trick is to outplay them. Every girl, especially the attractive ones, is looking for every opportunity to play mind games with you. Some more than others, but I have yet to meet one that has never played any with me. I even need to DJ my best friend, who I have no romantic interest in, or she starts getting bored with me.

When you do outplay them, they'll make little slip ups. They'll ask why you didn't call them, hug them, wait for them, etc.
 

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You gotta get her away from her friends (and your sisters!). Take her on a simple coffee date and from there set something a little bigger.
 
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