Yeah I am not sure what it is about me but worst gaming or pickup ever last night.

[thelonewolflegend]

Lol yeah I was at party last night and its like a friends party going away. There is a girl I don't see her often she is in social circle somewhat and I find her attractive in a way. I didn't know her too well she saw me and was like hey your paul im like yeah she told me her name introduced me to friends. I have to say I am not doing too great since I havent practiced or and have been with girl as well. Basically I was leaving saying it was great to meet you we chatted for a little bit and I basically said we should kick it sometime shes like hestiant like yeah basically saying that she comes here to parties n stuff I said yeah thats cool let me get your number (just felt awkward you know LOL) she gave me number I am pretty sure its hers she knows I have friends n stuff that are at parties and know people so yeah shes like drive safe let me know. So I was gonna get opinions on any way possible on how to salvage this if its her number I wanted to maybe call her today and talk a little bit opinions?

Maybe say excuse me last night I was really messed up and get to normal convoing and setup a date? Or should I text?

 

[jurry]

I don't see what was so bad about it? Definitely don't call her for several days maybe even a week though. And when you do just a casual convo "oh I'm doing XYZ this weekend you should come", don't come on too strong. Date other girls.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

lol im not really doing anything though thats why not sure what to say do I gotta make something up or somethin?

 

[thelonewolflegend]

what would you say to her?

 

[jurry]

Oh i thought u guys were in the same social circles. Its difficult to tell based on your interaction with her what the interest level was like or if the expectation was you guys would be meeting up for a date or just that you were in the same group of friends and you could all hang together sometime. If you dont have anything planned you could call her up just see what shes doing for the weekend maybe she invites you to come, if she doesnt have anything going on thats a good time to ask her to meet up for a drink.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

She is social circle not sure what to say when call her?

 

[apprenticedj]

First off, take it easy big fella! Don't let this chick get you all worked up. You already know each other and if you're at least 21 years old, call her later this week and ask her to get a drink at a specific time, like Friday at 8 etc.

Her response will dictate your next action. If she says she can't at that time but doesn't offer some sort of counter offer IT'S DEAD. Be causual with your response to her disinterest but do not waste your time any longer on her.

If she says yes then go dazzle her with your skills and above all else have fun.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

ok well what do I do whens he doesn't counter offer how can I get her out be like well when you free or whats up or be blunt is cool etc...??

 

[apprenticedj]

If she doesn't counter offer YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING. The no counter offer thing is a bonafide, no mistake about it sign that she's not interested so at that point there isn't much you can do to get her to go out.

In that case you would simply say "no worries". Now she'll probably say "some other time though". Now listen closely THAT ISN'T A COUNTER OFFER. A counter offer needs to be specific, for example, "I can't tonight but what about 6 PM on Saturday?" Anything less specific than that is simply her attempting to keep you in orbit so that she can feed off your attention.

No counter offer, you'll delete her number and move on to the next one.

If I may offer an additional suggestion. Forget about this chick, you're overthinking this thing to the highest degree and that always spells trouble. Take a step back and read the DJ Bible. This will help you 1000x more than any response to your thread, it's gold when you're just starting out.