****y & Funny and Good looks...

[Holland]

What do you guys think about it?
Should you:

-Don't use it at all
-Use it less
-Use it in a less extreme way
-Keep it more funny than ****y
-or just do it the same way as a normal person.

Cause I'm having some trouble with it. Sometimes girls label me as arrogant or mean (and not in a playfull way, I know since those girls told my friends around my back).

 

[downfallofdisbelief]

first of all, cf is not supposed to be your magical chick magnet. its just an aspect that you can incorporate into your personality. it is NOt your personality. would you want to date a girl that was only sarcastic, all of the time? it'd be quite boring. cf is just an influence you can use if your feeling a bit low on the self esteem, it'll create the illusion you have it together. but as you'll eventually learn, it's not about the tricks you have, its how you present yourself. you dont want to over-do any aspect.

as for good looks, your either born with it or your not. and if you got em, then there's no question of whether its going to affect your game or not.

 

[solo1]

normally if you have good looks, c&f shouldnt be necessary. Use natural humor that's witty instead + charm and you'll make htem melt.

 

[squirrels]

"C&F" is a way to generate the illusion of self-confidence and self-esteem.

A better alternative is to have REAL confidence and REAL self-esteem.

 

[AudiTy]

I agree with most of the above but:

C+F is not just for confidence, it's to make it fun for you too. Also, to weed out the insecure females (that is if you're looking for a relationship). It does wonders when used correctly in attracting confident women.

 

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by Holland
What do you guys think about it?
Should you:

-Don't use it at all
-Use it less
-Use it in a less extreme way
-Keep it more funny than ****y
-or just do it the same way as a normal person.

Cause I'm having some trouble with it. Sometimes girls label me as arrogant or mean (and not in a playfull way, I know since those girls told my friends around my back).

Don't do any of those that you mentioned.

It's all about balance. Look here, it's a bad thing when a woman calls you "arrogant".....It's a good thing when a woman calls you "mean" *depending on the tone of her voice*.

Be ****y and funny....balance it out the best you can....It's alright if you're a little over funny...but you'll have to back it up with extra ****y.....but...it's best to have enough of each....

 

[Holland]

Well kind of the reason why I posted this is this:
Back when I just started trying to be more succesfull I guess I overdid it and then got some girls label me as arrogant. That was back in summer holiday. Now I get things much better and get girls attracted to me at school, since they pretty much didn't have an impression of me yet. But the thing is that I still come in contact with those girls (in my spare time with friends, going out and stuff) that do have the arrogant impression of me and stick with it and that kind of sucks since they also spread it among their close friends.
Guess that's the value of social proof that's helping me at school but screwing it for me in other places....

 

[LuvLadies]

I know I'm a newb, but I'll still put in my $0.02. If girls see you as arrogant, I'd just tone it down a little bit, and do it a litle less often, not get rid of it completely. I tried it and worked amazing for me.

Sorta Related story one day in class:
I took this sexy foreign girl's seat. After she came back and saw me there, I moved to the one next to her cause we had to share a computer for this presentation. I was looking at shoes before she came. She went to some card game on yahoo games. After she got bored, she told me I could have it. I wen't "Unlike YOU, I'm trying to learn something!" She giggled with a huge smile and said, "AT least I'm not shopping for shoes online." We played around like that for the rest of the class.

Long story short, C&F worked amazingly for me. Maybe cause I used to be afraid of offending people and all that other stuff. Maybe it just allowed me to relax and be myself, cause when I used to try to be funny everybody with look at me stupid like, . Maybe cause that was high school and had a rep for not being funny. Whatever