"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Xmas presents for GF's.

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Struggling for ideas for xmas presents for a pretty serious nearly 3 month relationship. although weve known each other for 5.

She's into the normal girly stuff, Diamonds, Disney, Pillows, Animal prints etc.

Were off on holiday with each other a week or so before xmas, and wont be spending xmas day together because of family stuff, but I intend to give what ever I get for her on holiday or the day we get back, but not let her open it untill xmas day obviously.

A couple of ideas I have had so far from myself and others.

A disney pillow with a space for a photo on it. She has millions of pillows on her bed and loves them and I have seen disney pillows with a space for a photo to be slept on before.

The board game operation. Dont know if anyone knows what that is but she adores the game and told me a story of how she wanted it last year but never got it. So I could get her this. Obviously not as the main present but as part of it.

Someone said a diamond, but to be honest my thoughts are that is way to serious and also i know its something an ex of hers got her with 2 saphires and i dont want her remembering that so maybe a nice silver necklace.

Anyway, any ideas and stories of what they have got and done to there girlfriends before would be helpful.

Thanks.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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PeterCrouch

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Also one other thing, I was thinking of asking one of her closet girlfriends for a bit of help. Do you suggest this?

Bearing in mind, I have never met any of her friends (For reasons I dont really wanna go into. Mainly because we got a little distracted when I was supposed to go meet them lol) so I would probably facebook them with a message or something.
 

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I think EVERYONE knows the game "Operation" lol.

I think you should ask her friends what she might like or what she loves but take it with a grain of salt. I think you should get her maybe pajama's you know the loose fitting one )not lingerie( with maybe a Disney princess. It's a good thing your not getting her a diamond because you barely know the women and a less serious gift is always preferable then an over the top gift. Good luck.
 

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I've been dating my g/f for about a month now and I went out today and bought her a bottle of lotion at Victoria's Secret for $9 and an incense kit (the kind you don't light) at Target for about $15 and I think even THAT may have been a little over the top. It's true that girls love getting presents, but you definitely don't need to go breaking the bank for all this.

DON'T get her diamonds. If you get her something expensive like that, sure, she'll be appreciative, but then she'll probably expect nicer things in the future. At 3 months into a relationship, I don't think you need to be getting her diamonds. Maybe at one year you could consider something like that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She is 19. I'm 21. I'm not going to get her diamonds. What about a necklace?
 

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I think that would be ok, but once again, don't go breaking the bank on it. I got one of my old g/f's a necklace at about 5 months into the relationship. It was about $49, but it looked like it was pretty expensive. Does she have a birthday coming up?
 

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I'd give her a pat on the back and a breakup on dec 20 than when she cries and pleads for you not to go let her come back on dec 27 so the whole gift giving thing passes without you feeling so obligated. Then you can still go out for new years and you won't be a bad guy for dumping her on christmas. this is why i hate gift giving holidays. no dude wants to give presents. My favorite present is "you don't have to give me a present." Sweet.
 

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mrRuckus said:
My favorite present is "you don't have to give me a present." Sweet.
LOL. Well said.
 

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shes 19 and into pillows and disney?

when i was 19 my wish list contained one word .. vaccum.
i desperately needed one.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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