"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Xavier's Guide to getting Jacked in 30 days.

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Most people never truly push themselves...they only push themselves to their preconceived limit in their mind and then never push past it.
This is very true, when I work out alone vs with my friend I usually do less.

To counter this, I make a conscious effort to push 1-3 more reps on whatever I do once I feel like stopping. It's probably not as effective as my friend shouting "two more!" when I'm about to quit.

I saw a dude at the park yesterday timing his rest doing pullups, I shouted out to him to keep going and counted him out 3 more reps, he was exhausted but laughed and said thanks.

A lot of our productive output in life is based on mentals/being pushed. It's human nature to seek the path of least resistance. Actively push yourself to do 1-3 extra reps, more if you can, whenever you can.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Not possible. To gain 20 lbs in a month is either lard or steroid abuse.
Not even steroid abuse. It's not as if you just shoot some Winstrol and you are a hulking brute overnight. Even with drugs you have to take them for a couple of weeks; the drug has to build up in your system before the magic happens. I have no doubt the app/routine the user provided is good and within a month you could see a slight change if you trained hard (esp if we are talking weight loss) but there is no way to put on 30 lbs of solid muscle in 1 month. The 30lb gain would largely be from fat.
 

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This is very true, when I work out alone vs with my friend I usually do less.

To counter this, I make a conscious effort to push 1-3 more reps on whatever I do once I feel like stopping. It's probably not as effective as my friend shouting "two more!" when I'm about to quit.

I saw a dude at the park yesterday timing his rest doing pullups, I shouted out to him to keep going and counted him out 3 more reps, he was exhausted but laughed and said thanks.

A lot of our productive output in life is based on mentals/being pushed. It's human nature to seek the path of least resistance. Actively push yourself to do 1-3 extra reps, more if you can, whenever you can.
Great point.

I think you are even under stating it.

Ever read David Goggins books, can’t hurt me?

he said something that always resonated with me. If you initially think ‘you’re done’ with something difficult, whether it be pull ups or a difficult work task, you’re actually only uncomfortable and only about 40 percent done. If someone put a gun to your head and said make 20 more work calls or crank out 20 more pull ups, you would be able to find a way.
 

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Great point.

I think you are even under stating it.

Ever read David Goggins books, can’t hurt me?

he said something that always resonated with me. If you initially think ‘you’re done’ with something difficult, whether it be pull ups or a difficult work task, you’re actually only uncomfortable and only about 40 percent done. If someone put a gun to your head and said make 20 more work calls or crank out 20 more pull ups, you would be able to find a way.
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20lbs of muscle in 30 days. Let's break down the math.

1lb of weight (not muscle or fat) requires 3500 calories of surplus. 20lbs of weight requires a 70,000 calorie surplus. 70,000 calorie surplus means you were eating 2333 calories extra every day for your 30 days.

Is it possible to eat that much? Sure. But is it likely that it all turned into muscle. Hell no.

I'm guessing OP put on 10lbs of water weight, 6lbs of fat, and maybe 4lbs of muscle if I'm being generous.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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